That’s awesome! Every step you take will make you feel better. I love Phoenix ‘s roller coaster analogie. So true. You can do it, and we’re your cheerleaders!

Hi Kathyd,
Welcome to the club none of EVER imagined joining, but glad you found us. Hopefully you can draw some strength here, and at least know you are not alone, and we absolutely get what you are going through. First of all, just breathe. You are in shock, and you’re body is responding to shock, it’s literally like getting hit by a bus. I was your exact same age when my world imploded. I had been married  30+ years.  It’s been 3 years since I divorced him, and I’m not going to lie, in the beginning, it was rough, but once I discovered the truth, I never considered staying in the marriage for even a second, to me, all trust was gone. You’ll see the same themes here over and over, blame shifting, projection, on and on. They will do absolutely anything to protect their secret. They are not our friends, and the sad part is they never were. You will get through this, I promise. I’d start by cutting off all contact with him, let your attorney communicate with him Don’t look too far down the road now, just focus on one day at a time. Call or email str8 spouse to see if there is a support group in your area, I went faithfully in the beginning and it was a lifesaver. I’m alone now, but I’m happy and am at total peace with my life, because it’s no longer filled with drama and lies. Keep posting, we are listening. Hugs.

Bravo to you! Now the mask is off, and you are seeing him for what he truly is, a coward. I got all the tears too, not for me, but for himself, after he was caught of course. They have the same playbook, beyond pathetic.  You’re on your way to a drama free life.

I’m so happy that you have found someone to help you! It’s such a domino effect, the better you feel about yourself, the more steps you feel confident in taking, the more optimistic you become. Pretty soon your steps turn into running!
Hugs!

I totally agree with what others have said without a doubt.  My story is their story. I prayed for answers and signs too, but you know what God did for me? The day I called it quits on a 30+ year marriage, God knew exactly what he was doing. Because my pain and trauma at the time was absolutely nothing compared to what was about to happen with my ex, and the only thing that saved me was that I had already told him to leave and he was living elsewhere . The ink was barely dry on the final decree, and he was arrested for something horrific. God knew what was coming and pulled me out in the knick of time. But I had to make that decision, and you can do it too. Life is so much better drama free and peaceful, you’ll see. Hugs.