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| Support » Where do I go from here? » Yesterday 11:17 pm |
- loc123
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@lily do I understand correctly that you had male friends make passes at you, gay men as well and also lesbians?
| Support » Where do I go from here? » Yesterday 5:16 pm |
- lily
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loc123 wrote:How does one recover from this? How do you trust again?
I think it's more about learning how to be careful than anything else. My default response is to trust!
And learning to take yourself seriously, when you think somethings off it probably is.
It was fascinating to see what happens when you become available. First I got a couple of sloppy passes from men I had considered I had a friendship with. That hurt. I thought I could rely on them to be my friends but that was the end of that for them.
Then came the gay men. And you know you tell them you have just managed to get away from marriage to a gay man and it only encourages them. finally I said to one that I thought he would be better off finding a boyfriend and that was the last I saw of him, I admit, it was rather funny to see how fast he ran.
All of which is to say you might have 'the one' waiting in the wings, and that is a genuine possibility but also it's more of the same - the lesbians will come after you pretending to offer great sex, don't be fooled. It is painful to see how the good men are hoovered up by the lesbians.
Once your eye is in, you will see them coming. so yes, take things slow, keep a step back wait for the other shoe to drop. I think there are some men here who have formed new relationships and very happy. Really you are still the person you are, you will be just fine in the long run.
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