Thanks for that, Rob.  I haven't found anything in my specific state.  I know there are states that allow for marriage certificates to be amended. 

StraightSpouse1979 wrote:

I have been off this site for a while but decided maybe I should return. My transgendered husband came out about 2 1/2 years ago. I still live in the same home with "him" and our 7 year old daughter. When I met my now bf of 1 1/2 years, I started the process of finding FT work but then covid hit and she had to be educated virtually so it was financially best to stay here so she and I could navigate her education. She starts back FT in school for 2 nd grade tomorrow. I finally found a FT job in June after working just part time since I had her in 2014. It has been a challenging job that has added a lot of stress to my life. My insomnia is worse. I have a lot of people who have been pushing me to move because I should have done that as well as the divorce by now. I do not want to be married. I am very uncomfortable in this "home" but am struggling with dealing w the new job and navigating this divorce process. Having your daughter prefer this "dad" to you is also a struggle of mine and worrying that she will not want to have anything to do with me when I leave here is also a struggle. I hope that you are doing well on your own and that having the divorce finalized has brought you some peace

Straight Spouse- you really should consult an attorney because the savings you are creating are marital assets and subject to being split.  I highly recommend that you get out ASAP and seek trauma-based therapy.  
 

It's been exactly a year since my husband of 15+ years revealed that he believed himself to be a transgender woman, that unbeknownst to me he had cross-dressed before we met, that he had been masquerading as a woman online for years engaging in cyber sex, and that he was now intent on exploring his "gender identity" and ultimately transitioning.  

This week my divorce was finalized.  He still hasn't come out publicly.  Almost no one (other than my therapist and one sister) know the real reason for the divorce.  So, I am still living in the shame of his closet.  My children and I have found a new church home.  I have had amazing support from friends and I am doing my best at solo parenting.  And it's very much solo- I have full legal and physical custody of my kids and he sees them for a few hours a week. 

I'm posting this for the frightened and confused spouse who like me is desperately searching online for an answer to why this is happening to her.  It will be hard, but you can make it through.  If living with a transgender spouse is not what you want, don't wait around. Don't feel guilted into staying.  Get out as soon as you possibly can.   

Just go about your day and start making your plans for when you can get out.  

The trans revelation came at the end of August 2020.  He moved out January 2021.  Divorce is filed, a settlement reached, and should be finalized next month.