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1 | Support » Dreading the weekend » August 28, 2025 8:27 pm |
- Rob
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How did it go? If hea going ro rhe wedding as his new self i guess you dont have to explain why you're separating.
Hugs and prayers.
| General Discussion » Witchcraft, Novels, and more!!! » August 7, 2025 11:45 am |
- Rob
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Held,
Having gone through this it sounds like your're doing all the right things. For myself, my Lawyer advised not filing as adultery as it would make little difference in my area/state.. If I really wanted to go for full custody it was going to be at least another 20k extra. At the time my goal was not take the kids away from her and I told her as much. We did 50/50... she got.. half of each kid, half my retirement, and shockingly to her (half the debts).
The process sucks but if she doesnt drag it out with crazy demands..it can end. My GX was shocked and even more angry that she had to find a job... thought she and her girlfriend were going to buy a large house and live off of their cruel husbands..
Wishing you continued strength and stoicism.
| General Discussion » straight spouse network » August 4, 2025 12:25 pm |
- Rob
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The name of the site..I think they can call it whatever they want but believe they could still give it tags so the search engines find it when someone types in "my husband might be gay" or "I think my wife is not straight". Could be wrong though.
| General Discussion » straight spouse network » August 1, 2025 9:51 am |
- Rob
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Yep tried it.. put in my my wife may not be straight my wife is having is gay affair.. Our Path does not come up ..I went 3 to 4 pages in the results.
Not sure if its the site name but it looks like the words "straight" and "gay" have been taken away or disassociated from it. Maybe they offended someone.
Did find some reddit forums...Late bloomer lesbians or such. So maybe there are support groups and play books on how to cheat on your spouse...
| Support » Terrified to write this post - making myself do it » July 28, 2025 8:32 am |
- Rob
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Meadow,
Warm welcome to the group..that none of us thought we'd be in.
My standard saying applies about any of your doubts; this is not us leaving them, this is them rejecting us.
Definitely build your support system and know you did all you could. Many of us, yourself included, went to extraordinary measures and endured undeserved abuse..bent over backwards aand still these spouses were not happy.
It will come..maybe not now but in time ..we can only thank God for getting us away from such morally broken people.
| General Discussion » Milestones to being 'healed & moved on'? » July 17, 2025 7:48 am |
- Rob
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lily wrote:Great list and some great replies.
I think the most shocking moment for me was when the divorcee agreement was signed and I moved into my new home, after one night's sleep I woke up and the anxiety in the pit of my stomach, that I had lived with so long I thought it was a part of who I was had disappeared and I realised it had actually been a gut feeling response to his proximity. Not a personal problem as I had believed.Yes like a load of bricks taken off your chest.
| Is He/She Gay » Wondering if she is gay or bi » July 17, 2025 7:42 am |
- Rob
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Up vote on chump lady.
I've gained a life now and if you put a gun to my head would never go back to the person who i thought was my wife.
| Is He/She Gay » Wondering if she is gay or bi » July 6, 2025 1:01 pm |
- Rob
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So sorry but as another guy she sounds as gay as can be. She's basically cheating on you now also.
Its a hard thing ..same sex attraction is a core thing they kept from us. Its not like you or I would suddenly start seeing guys..
Definitely continue to build your support system and know you did nothing wrong. Hurt and disloyalty is not what we promised when we married them..we kept out promises..they kept?
| Support » I just want an apology » June 26, 2025 7:07 am |
- Rob
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Clintonia,
I/we hear you.
I'll say this. I was cleaning up and made the mistake of looking at some old pictures from college..I see pictures of myself young and happy..untramatized. I was not naive ..I truly loved her...she looked young and happy also..how was I to know she had a deep dark secret.
I forgive myself of being naive..I gave true fierce, absolute love and loyalty to my college sweetheart. She gave something much less ..I thank God everyday for giving me some years of happiness with her but also for getting me away from her in the end.
No I will never get an apology but can apologize to myself.
| General Discussion » Ellexoh_nz meets Alex1984 » June 26, 2025 6:51 am |
- Rob
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Good deal. Hope you guys gave each other a in real life hug.
(I recall the in person local SSN group..first thing I got was a hug and I cried.. as my cheating GX had stopped all physical contact with me..and I didnt know if any of her physical contact was ever real).
A sincere e-hug to everyone.