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1 of 1- rawawawab
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Gay Anxiety
I recently found out that a man I was in a long term relationship with is gay. I ended the relationship because it was not working but did not know he was gay when I ended it. I moved on and started dating a new man and have been with him for some time. I am now anxious that the new man could be gay. He has a few close male friends and has gone to a gay bar with them before though this is not a regular thing. I've never seen any suspicious messages, porn, or dating app activity on his phone. The sex seems to be ok and much better than the sex in the previous relationship (with the confirmed gay man) but it definitely has dropped off the longer we have been together. I don't want to do anything sketchy like snoop on his phone or test him because I feel that trust is important. I am also so stressed out by the possibility that he could be gay. Is it a real possibility or am I just anxious because of my prior relationship? Is there any ethical way to determine whether my new partner is gay or not?
Last edited by rawawawab (January 27, 2025 10:59 pm)
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Re: Gay Anxiety
One of the best tools a woman has is her intuition. Never stop listening to it.
Ask him if he's bisexual and gauge his reaction. Make a joke out of it if that's more comfortable for you.
My former partner was okay admitting he was bi.... but horrified when I mentioned the g word 🤣 He thought him liking cock had no bearing on his r'ship with me. I mean...wtf!
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Re: Gay Anxiety
Rawa,
If he has any morality and empathy you should be able to outright ask him. You shouldn't have to snoop.
You have every right to feel wary and he should understand and respect that.
An answer like "if you put a gun to head i wouldnt like guys" would be ideal. An flat answer like no with no eye contact would be worrysome. His phone should be an open book if he truly loves you.
I sincerely hope your not noticing red flags.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7