"Straight male that enjoys sex with men".

The world has become so convoluted and tries so hard to live in denial-land where every little thought or fantasy must redefine reality to suit their own personal validation as what they *want* to be.

I'm waiting for the day I can pretend my way to being a glamorous billionaire and get validated by the public as one because my precious little feelings need to actually shape public belief. 😉

OOHC says:"I keep copies of them and sometimes when I am having a bad time or questioning myself about whether I did the right thing I look at them so I remember just what it was like and why I had to leave"

I do the same thing. My jewelry box has folded letters of confessions, descriptions, etc written by him. I've had them for 3 years. I plan to keep them, for myself, and for our son who may have questions when he is older.

I've always considered it akin to blackface.

"learned just last week that a friend, who knows the truth, had shared the truth with her husband, whom I also counted as my friend, and he refuses to believe it. (I told her I could provide her husband with photos and letters sent to me by my ex if he'd like to see them...) This means that he must believe I am lying about my ex, that I am the kind of person who would do this."

Oohc,

I'm terribly sorry about this. My heart gave a big wrenching twist when I read it.

What an arrogant ass this man must be to place himself in the position of 'lied to' over a story as incredibly painful as this one. Perhaps it struck some denial spot in him where he could not think of his male friend all gussied up in Victoria's Secret.

False friends on the backside of personal tragedy are like a kick when you're already down, but at least you know where he stands now.

It's weird how all kinds of things like this come out of the closet along with the spouse.

Best to you.

"A man". No identity, just "a man".

My head is swirling with terms. Self-consumed, narcissistic, completely devoid of empathy to name a few.

What's hilarious about this is if this woman was straight and breaking her family for another man and this was her demeanor, everyone reading it would be muttering under their breath "cluster B personality disorder" and feeling she needed therapy.

The coming out party obliterates the common expectations we have for human beings.