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| General Discussion » Breaking News: My wife is a lesbian - Now I have questions » July 21, 2021 8:32 pm |
- Debra614
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Z, this is impossible news to get, isn’t ? I’m sorry and want you to know that you’re likely to go through many emotions over the next weeks. My best advice is to get a good attorney and work towards a divorce. Your wife didn’t come out to herself six months ago, she’s always known she’s a lesbian, she just couldn’t figure out how to face the changes that come with a disclosure. I waited too long, and am afraid it’s too late for me. I am going to face that fear and am moving towards divorce. I WIIL NOT be married by this point next year. This forum helps a lot.
| General Discussion » Mixed Orientation Marriages - Pathways to Success » October 29, 2019 10:41 pm |
- Debra614
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I am in a MOM and have been for a long time, too long. My husband is a good person, kind and caring. He doesn’t do the things he does to hurt me, he does them because he’s gay. We grew up in a time and place where coming out as a gay man was a nightmare. If he had had his choice he would never have told me. I believe he loves me and I love him, but it’s not enough. Not enough for either of us.
We have just welcomed our first grandchild and this should be a time of only happiness. The cloud over our head takes away a little of that happiness. Finally, at age 62, he can tell me the truth. He’s a gay man. I’ve looked the other way too long and now I have to leave him. I want to set both of us free. It won’t be easy, there will be a river of tears, I’ve already cried an ocean. We won’t be quite as well off separate as we are together but I no longer care.
My advice to women in this situation is to leave as soon as you can. I wish I had done it sooner but I won’t look back, just forward. We hope to divorce with grace, fairly divide what we have and try to remain friendly.
| General Discussion » how do I get my groove back? » October 15, 2019 3:24 pm |
- Debra614
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I’m 61 and will likely be divorced sometime in the next year so I fully understand where you’re coming from. I’m fortunate to have had a very successful career that I never gave up so I’ll be OK financially. Grateful for that. I’m very emotional about what I’m facing and have decided to be good to myself. I’ve upped my exercise routine and am taking time to pamper myself a bit. I know it’s a long shot that I’ll find love again at my age. I’m OK with that, I’d rather be alone than to stay in my marriage. I’m looking forward to dating.
| Is He/She Gay » A FRIENDLY MESSAGE FROM A GAY EX-HUSBAND » October 13, 2019 5:52 pm |
- Debra614
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Thank you. After many years of trying to make my marriage work, even though I knew it was futile, I am ready to let it go. I joined this group, plan on attending a local SSN support group, and made an appointment with a therapist. I am suffocating in the back of his closet and I want out.
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