I really hope you continue to read everyone’s stories every once in a while.  They may not relate to you right now but they are real and they have been lived through.   My story started out just like yours.  My husband and I were best friends.  I felt sorry for him and couldn’t think to do anything but support him.  He said he would start slow.  I put up boundaries.  They were crossed.  Over and over.   He made me shop for him.    Do things I never thought I would do.  But I supported him.   He started getting happier I started sinking deep into depression.  My future was not what I thought it was going to be.  Everything changed.  I was alone.  He had formed tons of support systems.  I had no one.   Five years later I’m finally climbing out of my pit and realizing my needs and wants.  I’m now blamed that I lied about supporting him because I stayed.  I still support him but this isn’t the marriage I want.  Now it’s all my fault.   Now he says he’s still the same person.  If that’s true then the hell I just went through for all these years was fake.   Please I hope you seriously think about what you need and want.   This isn’t the time to put his needs first.  I hope you read this.   I know you’ll think your situation is going to be different but once he has your support buckle up.....it’s going to be a bumpy ride.

I realize this is an online community but was wondering if there are  any support groups to attend near Columbus Ohio.   Anything large or small.  Or if anyone just gets together for support.

It’s a great idea.  This group has helped me so much.  It has opened my eyes to see so much more.  I don’t know how I would feel if I couldn’t read these stories and realize I’m not the only one going through this.  I don’t feel so alone.
I actually told my therapist I found this group so she could tell others going through the same things.  She was really grateful.

I gave you my A-game in exchange for a sh*t sandwich....made me laugh out loud...and that doesn’t happen very often.  Thank you.  Maybe today won’t be so bad.

My husband is a trans woman. At the time I thought I could stay with him. Within the 3 years all of my boundaries have been crossed.  It’s like once open they just go all in.  And you’re supposed to go along because you stayed at the beginning.   Three months ago I decided I couldn’t live this way.  It’s only going to get worse. There are no boundaries now.  Once they have accepted themselves it’s a whole new life for them.  They may say they don’t want to lose you but as it progresses they realize how freeing it is and do not want the old self back.  You will just get dragged along.  It won’t stop!!!  He will never  be the person you married again.  That person is gone!!  You need to ask yourself what type of marriage you want.  I no longer want one with anxiety and worrying how far this thing is going to go.   I feel I’ve wasted a couple of years.  I regret not getting out sooner and starting my life the way I want.  Eventually I became angry at myself for giving in even though I knew this wasn’t the kind of marriage I wanted.  I need to find myself again and make my own decisions about my life.   I hope to find a real man someday but if not I’m still going to be living my life my way.  Peacefully and happy!  Please seriously think about what you want now because he isn’t going to stop.  Once he gets a taste of that feeling it becomes an obsession.  The pain will eventually fade.