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- ellierigg
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
New here. Love your post and love you. You chose life, and trust in life. Thank you!
- Toward the Light
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So glad it well well, Elle. And remember that courage doesn’t mean there’s an absence of fear—just that we move forward despite the fear. I’m out of my hell home almost 7 years and still backslide emotionally into “did I do the “right” thing?”— and then recall what Rob references above, the disrespect, dishonesty, deprivation etc. and I hear my soul cry out —“Yes! You did.” Keep faith in the adventure that is life—I do believe you are being led to a more peaceful place no matter what your age. Thinking of you with love and compassion.
- Ellexoh_nz
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MJM017 wrote:
....Very good! He might remember to respond to those emails now.
After 2 emails (that apparently went to his Spam) and a postal letter to him yesterday (I saw it in the letterbox, left it there, he said nothing about it but it was gone this morning) A. has replied to my lawyer who emailed me and said "it doesn’t seem like he wants to have discussions about how the property be divided, preferring that you and I simply come up with a proposal."
A. came into my life on a quiet wave and it seems like the tide will go out just as calmly...leaving me as superfluous to his life like he often made me feel.
At the moment I'm trying to keep all my possessions confined to my bedroom. There are boxes in there, lists in my head, memories laid over everything, the minutiae of my day to day existence.
I take many deep breaths.
I will not cry, I don't need the hurdle of emotion. That can wait til I'm gone
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Thread Starter- Grace1958
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
You're doing great. Such strength. The road will be bumpy but you will find your way. Wishing you peace
- Ellexoh_nz
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You're doing great. Such strength. The road will be bumpy but you will find your way. Wishing you peace
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Thread Starter- Charting My Path
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Elle,
Be careful not to start with what you think is a 50/50 proposal. A might use that to start negotiations with. My Ex went through mediation with me and I made compromises here and there to get it done then she and her attorney used the mediated agreement as my opening position from which they could get me to make further compromises.
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- Ellexoh_nz
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Elle,
Be careful not to start with what you think is a 50/50 proposal. A might use that to start negotiations with. My Ex went through mediation with me and I made compromises here and there to get it done then she and her attorney used the mediated agreement as my opening position from which they could get me to make further compromises.
My lawyer has asked me in for a meeting to discuss it all next week. When I think he earns a lot of money, and I will be on the pittance of NZ Superannuation I should get more but this whole thing feels weird and I'm feeling pretty down 
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Thread Starter- LostAtSea
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Elle,
I haven’t been on the forum posting in awhile, but I do read it often when I need some support and encouragement to know I’m not alone.
I wanted to say I am so proud of you taking these steps!
It’s hard to pull the trigger but when you do, nothing stops the flood.
You can do it! Hugs!
- Ellexoh_nz
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It’s hard to pull the trigger but when you do, nothing stops the flood.
You can do it! Hugs!
Thanks Lost it's been a journey, I'm almost through what has been the biggest storm I've been in.
And that's all I'll say because it's not quite over yet and I don't want to get ahead of myself...and won't believe I'm through it until...well, I'm not really sure!
Elle
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