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October 23, 2021 8:45 pm  #21


Re: I’m pretty sure he’s gay.

longwayhome wrote:

Helpme25 wrote:

Blue Bear wrote:

I’ll cut to the chase.  He’s not straight, and sounds like he’s mentally destroying you. A better husband you do deserve.

He definitely mentally destroyed me
I don’t know how to get out
As for a new husband I can’t trust around my daughter

Helpme, I fully agree you need to do some planning, but that can be challenging under these types of situations. Your comment above, concerns me a little bit. Can you clarify what you mean when you say, ‘I don’t know how to get out’?

One day at a time. Take care.

Because of my children I am afraid to lose them I am afraid to co parent I am afraid of breaking our family apart because of him being gay is a big deal however I feel I am being selfish to do so

 

October 23, 2021 8:46 pm  #22


Re: I’m pretty sure he’s gay.

Blue Bear wrote:

Helpme25 wrote:

Blue Bear wrote:

I’ll cut to the chase.  He’s not straight, and sounds like he’s mentally destroying you.

A better husband you do deserve.

He definitely mentally destroyed me
I don’t know how to get out
As for a new husband I can’t trust around my daughter

Don't worry about finding a new husband just yet.  I was just trying to say that in terms of having a "husband", the one you have seems to suck.  Worry about getting out fo the relationship with the husband you currently have.  Visit a lawyer (don't tell him you are doing this) and start planning.  It's a brutal journey, but it was worth it for me.

Yes. I am not worried about a new husband I don’t think of re marrying however I am still young and probably will do so but a lawyer sounds like a good idea thank you!

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October 23, 2021 11:34 pm  #23


Re: I’m pretty sure he’s gay.

Hi helpme,

Am very glad you will be consulting a family law attorney to know what your legal and financial rights are. You need to be reassured of your custody rights as a mother.


No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa 
 

November 4, 2021 10:00 pm  #24


Re: I’m pretty sure he’s gay.

Guys.. I found texts between husband and the friend  I was talking about my husband said ‘bring that ass’ and he replied with ‘wow you want it again’. I’m very devastated because everything I felt and always had in the back of my mind is true.

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November 13, 2021 11:46 am  #25


Re: I’m pretty sure he’s gay.

Helpme25 wrote:

Guys.. I found texts between husband and the friend I was talking about my husband said ‘bring that ass’ and he replied with ‘wow you want it again’. I’m very devastated because everything I felt and always had in the back of my mind is true.

I intercepted messages between my ex-wife and her girlfriend where they were talking about how much they enjoyed "moaning" with each other.  This was not one of my favorite days of my life.  But at least I knew the truth, which is that my ex-wife was decidedly not straight.  And it was at this point that I realized I had to make some decisions because neither infidelity, nor profound dishonesty, nor same-sex attraction were acceptable to me.
 

 

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