Hi wondering 89 . I know exactly where your coming from as this is the way my husband has been . I seperated from him immediately when I found out what he had been doing , it took me 5 days to get him to leave and he only left when I said if you don't leave I will ring the police and tell them your being aggressive ( I just couldn't bare to be in the same house as him or look at him ) he has cried pleaded and done everything you can think of to get me to take him back, promises of holidays and even a new house , says he loves me and is devastated and is acting devestated , I started seeing a guy and my husband started stalking me and being absolutely enraged with jealousy, I thought he was going to have a nervous breakdown ,  kept ringing and texting asking me if I loved this guy and trying to pry information out of me like how many times I see this guy and asking me if I had slept with him , all the time enraged with jealousy ,came round to the house and stood in my kitcjin crying saying he doesn't know why he did it , will never ever ever do it again , is distgusted at himself , has only done it a few times , loves women and isn't gay and not even bisexual , tells me I'm making mountains out of molehills and isn't as bad or as much as what I'm saying it is , is all in my head and I always make things bigger than what they are, loved bombed me like you wouldn't believe . The thing is that from the start although I had only seen a couple of appointments he had made at a gay massage place ( which he said he never went to but I didn't believe that of course) I just knew there was more to find out. ( I had never ever suspected him of sane sex attraction as he is the least gay person as a man and he had never ever made me think of him in that way . This has been going on for 7 months now. I have never changed my mind from day one that our marriage was over although I loved him very much and was devestated that our fantastic life together was over , I was still attracted

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Count , I told my parents and the rest of my family the day I found out as I knew there was no talking about what I found out ,as the evidence was in front of my eyes and it was over for me from the minute I found out ,going for gay massage and watching gay porn is what I found out) but I suspect much more , I'm so glad I told them straight away because of the support they gave me , I kicked him out of the house , wouldn't go for 4 days but before he went I had binned all our wedding albums and binned every card and every sentimental thing he had ever bought me , took every picture down of him and they went in the bin aswell. I did this for me because I knew he would never be a part of my life again and day one was the beginning of starting a new life without him. I had bad days but never went down into the depths of depression because I wSnt going to let him do that to me , it's 4 months now and I do miss him sometimes but never regretted my decision although it was very very hard wen he was begging me and crying but I just thought , NO I'm just gonner get on with my life and these painful thoughts will eventually fade into a nothing , but yeh I think what the others say of telling your family is so good because you have the support and I didn't want to keep his secret for him , I had no reason too. If you think your family would be a good support it's best to tell them obviously depending on if they will be a support for you

One of the things my ex GID said( one of his pathetic excuses)  is I think I'm a sex addict , I said your not a sex addict if you were a sex addict you'd be wanting sex all the time with me  aswell and you never want sex and one of his other excuses was ( it was just easy sex) I said well why not go to females for your sexual  massages and there's lots of female prostitutes out there , what a load of crap some of his excuses , must think I was born yesterday . Oh yes that book is an absolute load of crap, it would just make the men reading it think yeh I'm not gay or even bi and it's ok to do what I'm doing and make excuses for themselves, my husband thought he'd been reborn after reading it , I could tell by his voice on the phone , he said I'm not gay or even bi read the book it will tell you , I said I have read it and it's a load of crap , if your having sex with men you are at the very least bisexual and he's like oh so you know better than a psychologist , honestly if you havnt read it dont bother it will make your blood boil it's the biggest load of cods wollop I've ever read

Has anybody read the book called is my husband gay straight or bisexual ?? My GID husband sent it to me and said please read it , it will show you that I'm not gay or even bi . I did read it and it's a load of absolute rubbish. The guy who wrote the book says just because your husband has sex with men doesn't mean he is gay or bi . Just makes excuses for married men to be having sex with other men. It actually really annoyed me reading it and it made my husband feel like ahhh I'm not gay or bi because this guy says all this. I think the book is damaging and a load of crap. My husband said , I wish I would have read the book a long time ago because I've woke up this morning like a new person and I'm not gay or bi and now I understand myself