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Is He/She Gay » I confronted my husband finally » January 18, 2024 12:32 am

Helpme25
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Ellexoh_nz wrote:

Helpme25 wrote:

Hey I came on here a while ago back while I was pregnant asking advice about some texts I found.. U

 
Hello again. What have you done about your situation? Have you confided in anybody, told your family, had counseling? Has he harmed either you or your child physically?

Elle

I finally left by the grace of god my lord and savior he has given me so much courage and strength thank you for being concerned hope your doing well godbless ❤️❤️❤️

Is He/She Gay » I hate my husband. » January 18, 2024 12:31 am

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Hi, everyone hope all is well 😊. I finally left him by the strength and courage from my god Lord & savior .

Is He/She Gay » I confronted my husband finally » June 24, 2023 5:21 pm

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Hey I came on here a while ago back while I was pregnant asking advice about some texts I found.. after my son was born I went into a deeper depression and finally had a panic attack break down in the bathroom one morning braking everything and screaming and crying he was home he was freaking out asking what was wrong and I told him because your gay I showed him the proof he said it was a joke and he sweated and blah blah blah and if it wasn’t true why was he so mad that he punched our bathroom door had to replace it obviously
So he also told me because I was an easy target.

Is He/She Gay » I hate my husband. » May 27, 2022 2:29 pm

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Momoftwo wrote:

I feel for you. I can definitely relate. I spent 34 years married to a gay man. I married him thinking he loved me and I loved him. No sex on honeymoon and lots of guy friends. I started realizing that I had probably married someone I did not spend enough time getting to know. Somehow had two children, 5 years apart and probably the only two times we had sex! I must have been fertile. I spent my life devoted to raising kids while he kinda did his own thing, had lots of hobbies and lots of guy friends!!! I spent so many years unhappy and wondering what was wrong with me. He died of a sudden heart attack and it was more painful than ever dealing with all his friends who some chose not to talk to me and others told me they were unaware he had a wife!!! The pain and regret I am going through after realizing I spent so many years ignoring my own happiness and well being is something I have to work through. I am telling you it won't get better, he will not change, there is no happy ending. I would tell my younger self get out and realize you deserve happiness. Good luck to you.

When did you realize he was gay?

I’m sorry you had to go through this and relate so much! It’s a horrible feeling

Is He/She Gay » I hate my husband. » May 25, 2022 5:17 pm

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lily wrote:

oh goodness, I can relate - good for you to say it all.  um, I am wondering, do you have any family friends who can help you? 

It is entirely baffling to see how horrifically selfish a person is that they married you in the first place and then to realise he's still the same, no remorse, no mercy - and then to understand the more I put up with it, it was only going to keep getting worse.

Your vision of a happy family life is to be cherished but he's doing something completely different isn't he.

It's like what they say on airplanes, put your oxygen mask on first, if you try putting it on your children first you will pass out before you can do it.  Your happiness counts, and to me it seems that just in acknowledging it is the strongest medicine you can give your children.

 

Girl. I don’t know what to do.

So it’s like okay I confront him with all the information and proof I have okay fine but then the relationship we once had (whatever relationship is actually left) because honestly there isn’t one  which is sad because I once loved this man like no other

Confront ask questions and then what? Like I just feel it’s not gonna do anything confronting it but going crazy talking to myself about it I don’t have anyone to talk to about it because it’s just embarrassing truly

Is He/She Gay » I hate my husband. » May 25, 2022 4:22 pm

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I’m just gonna vent because I have no one else to vent too
I hate my husband I never wished anything bad on anyone but I truly don’t wish good for my husband I have so much anger and hurt that he is gay and everything I found out
I posted here before asking questions wondering if hes gay and all that and we all came to the conclusion that he is definitely my problem is I have 2 children a 2 year old who loves her father dearly and a 2 month old and I just can’t get myself to separate my family to make me happy I don’t know if he is still doing his gay shit it’s just I DONT WANNA LOOK AT HIM I DONT WANNA TALK TO HIM I don’t want anything to do with a person who is supposed to be my husband and actually attracted to me but wants a man this is nothing I ever expected to go through and and now I feel a like a hostage just here living with a room mate cuz let’s be honest there’s no sex life and even when we do have sex it’s for 2 mins and I don’t even finish he can’t even take the time out to ask if I finished it’s just oh ‘are you happy’ ‘did u like that’ no it fucking sucked because my mind was all over the place with ‘he rather be fucking a man’ or he’s thinking of a man so when the sex is over in that very lil short time there’s no time for me to actually enjoy my husband ITSS ALL VERY FRUSTRATING AND DEPRESSING

And I KNOW he knows that I know he’s gay but he just wants me to accept it and live with it like it’s nothing I know he knows I found the gay porn and how I know him and his ‘friend’ speak to eachother and how I know that friend is gay and that I found sex pills and obviously the no sex for years and me trying to have sex (before I thought he was gay) it just BAFFLES me how selfish a person can be

Is He/She Gay » What does it mean » April 30, 2022 5:30 pm

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So I posted  before on here
I wanted to ask a question on what this Text to my husbands friend who is gay means because it doesn’t make sense to me please help!
My husband said ‘ I’m dying to put this soft cock in you’

Why does he want to be soft?

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » November 10, 2021 4:53 pm

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Sean wrote:

Thank you for writing Helpme25. In reply: 

"Hi Sean I wanna know your thoughts on my husband I know he’s gay but what is your input. I found texts between my husband and his gay friend my husband said ‘bring that ass’ the friend replied with wow you want it again. Another text of my husband saying he is dying to put his soft cock in him. And lastly my husband texted ‘Let me know if your ready to get some hot cock and rock action and get that little ass pounded right.’ I should call it my husband’s boyfriend."

Wow. Well I don't know of many straight husbands who so openly text about 'ass pounding' with other men. I wasn't sure what input you wanted but I'm happy to share a few thoughts. (I've skimmed your original posts so I have a bit of context.) First, I'd encourage you to read this forum's First Aid Kit OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum » First Aid Kit: How to survive finding out your partner is LGBT (boardhost.com). Second, I recommend speaking to someone at the SSN/Our Path Personal Support - OurPath. I've also read in your posts that you're about 4-5 months from having his baby, while at the same time planning to consult with a divorce lawyer. I hope I have my facts straight. 

While I'm not a mental health professional, I echo many of the suggestions fellow members have made on your thread OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum » WHAT DO I DO. Here's my two cents: 

1. Your husband is clearly gay. 
2. Your husband is a top, meaning he penetrates other men. 
3. He appears to have a long-term lover/boyfriend, a boyfriend he likely had before you were married. 
4. His boyfriend is a bottom, meaning he is penetrated during sex with your husband. 
5. Reading your original post, your relationship has followed a common pattern fo

Is He/She Gay » WHAT DO I DO » November 9, 2021 6:20 pm

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MJM017 wrote:

After the holidays is a great goal.  I hate to sound like a broken record, but it'll give you confidence to confront if you know your rights about custody, finances where you live now.

Your h may try to scare you with lies about divorce laws. My late GIDXH sounded convincing many times, but he was being dishonest. Those in the closet are masters at manipulating facts to continue cheating with men. 🙁

Am thinking good thoughts for you and your child & baby to come. You are a brave person.

Yes he will try to manipulate and scare me atleast that’s what I feel
Thank you so much (hugs)

Is He/She Gay » WHAT DO I DO » November 9, 2021 5:30 pm

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Ellexoh_nz wrote:

Helpme25 wrote:

I’m just at really trying to make it until after Christmas to confront him but it’s so challenging

Ah yep.....challenge. It will be tough but you can do this, you just have to be stronger than the emotions you're 
feeling about this, about him. Easy to say, harder to do I know. See "after christmas" as a goal and work towards it

Elle
 

Thank you for your encouragement ❤️

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