Clif wrote:

I do believe that the think that is still hard for me today is knowing that this was the real her since the day I met her. When we married, I was 19 and she was 17 (Almost 18). 27 years later when she 'came out' I thought I had really known her. How wrong was I? Now it has been 7 years since she left and I am the happiest I have ever been.

Good days are head for all of you here. This really will be just a footnote in your life at some point.

P.S. I read here every day but almost never respond. I am quite pleased at how strong you all are!

Knowing there is an upside to all this is really helpful.