OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / I confess

**Posted by Dee** November 12, 2016 10:31 am

I second that response lostdad! We are here for you sunflower. I'm struggling this month myself, November was d day for me, and although most days I'm doing pretty damn good, I confess the past few weeks have been rough for me. I'm trying to keep a lid on it cause I don't want my kids to worry about me. But it's a gorgeous, sunny day today, and I'm going to get outside and tackle the leaves and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

**Posted by Dee** November 12, 2016 11:12 am

2015. One year today, wow jk. I've come SO far, and I know this is just a blip, I'm not missing him at all , Not for a second, it just gets revisited it my head, hopefully very temporarily. Enjoy your day 😊

**Posted by Dee** November 12, 2016 11:21 am

Oops, 2014.

**Posted by Daryl** November 12, 2016 12:10 pm

Since we drifted to the topic of anniversary's today is also one for me - five years since my ex took possession of her own house and moved.

**Posted by Laurence** November 12, 2016 12:49 pm

Anniversaries - mine was an October surprise

**Posted by whatasham24** November 12, 2016 9:35 pm

jkpeace wrote:
Dee,
To my surprise, I am doing better. This board has helped, more than anything else has.

I confess that I never expected that.

I second that! Of all the resources I have paid for, leaned on & sucked dry, this forum has definitely helped the most for me. It's as though I have 50+ therapists, advisers & confidants.

I too never expected that. I thought I'd get some insight on how to cope, not "How to get my life back"

Bless Y'all
Sham

Dee, JKPeace, Daryl et al: congrats on your anniversary! Wow, November is a game changing month!

**Posted by Lurker** November 13, 2016 4:50 am

I confess, I lurk!

I read the posts and draw strength, insight, a sense of validation and understanding from all, and I am so very appreciative of that companionship.

Men posting reminds me there are some good men in the world who are caring, sincere and capable of true love. Thank you.

Sunflower, you are an inspiration to me. Please stay, and never underestimate the impact you (unknowingly) have on others by leading the way into singledom and survivorship, especially at this moment in your life. Sincerely, kudos to you for your remarkable strength and wisdom. Although you are hurting, you are in a better place now to enjoy the good each day offers, even if they are simple pleasures (my favourite kind). Reach out when you need to, allow others to also help you sometimes.

**Posted by Jack** November 14, 2016 7:05 am

I confess

I dated three different women at the same time just after tgt. I did not intend that, getting dates just turned out to be much easier than I ever imagined.
One of them I would bet was secretly gay.
Anyway, this situation only lasted a few weeks.

Jack

**Posted by Rob** November 14, 2016 7:30 am

I confess. I'm alone and scared.

I confess my kids are a lot like my GXW sometimes and can make me start shaking as if she was in room raging at me.

**Posted by Dee** November 14, 2016 5:58 pm

Rob,
I'm sorry you are scared. It truly just stinks, but look how far you've come? I'm enjoying my alone time, quite honestly. I can do what I want, when I want, and I'm no longer walking on eggshells, that in itself is awesome! Please, please don't tolerate bad behavior from your kids toward you, actually, don't tolerate it from anyone, but don't let your kids think it's ok, it's not, and you're not doing them any favors in the long run. Despite what happened at the end of your marriage, they need to respect you as a parent and your rules of your home.