thank you for your post, Canary, it is very validating.  I think you have nailed it on the head - the thing I finally realised about my ex is that being a liar is a way of life for him, he is fine with it, it is who he is.  And anything and everything goes when it comes to maintaining his closet - it's his home, I was never more than wallpaper for him.

Everybody thinks he's such a kind and gentle man, so trustworthy and though I know firsthand how unkind he really is I also don't feel like I need to warn people.  I think he has done well in his professional capacity.

 

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