Anon2222 wrote:
There were hints of it early in the marriage that I just glossed over. But, I learned the hard way that he is all about himself and he will do whatever he wants and screw anyone and everything else.
This has been one of the most profound discoveries I've made. I too, spent 23 years looking through rose colored glasses. She is incredibly selfish. Sure, she did things for me from time to time, and is a good mother, I wont take that from her. That said, she is and has always been about herself. Never admitting mistakes is selfish. Always blaming your errors on someone or something else is selfish. Withholding information in a safe and stable relationship is about you, not the relationship. Upon reflection, I always did the apologizing, the making up, the conversation starting, all of it.....she is so inept at relationships, I'll ask her about her day and she will tell me. In the past, I would just tell her about mine. Now she just looks at me and says "are you going to tell me about your day". I say every time, "you didnt ask". SHE NEVER FREAKING ASKED!
You are not alone. For us, we saw past the flaws because we chose the hard work of loving the person, scars and all. They did not and could not return us even half that curtesy. Real shame
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