Z, this is impossible news to get, isn’t ?  I’m sorry and want you to know that you’re likely to go through many emotions over the next weeks.  My best advice is to get a good attorney and work towards a divorce. Your wife didn’t come out to herself six months ago, she’s always known she’s a lesbian, she just couldn’t figure out how to face the changes that come with a disclosure. I waited too long, and am afraid it’s too late for me. I am going to face that fear and am moving towards divorce. I WIIL NOT be married by this point next year.  This forum helps a lot.