Hi lily, thanks for taking the time to reply, I was sympathetic to her plight, I’m just not happy about using my disability as an excuse, my physical and mental health need to come first now, with the benefit of a couple of weeks of her not knowing I’m beginning to see this much clearer now, I think she needs to go on her own journey and realise what she’s left behind, I’m done with trying to be an empath and understanding her mental anguish with this. I need to clear my mind, hey I’m a level 7 qualified financial adviser, I’m not daft, but I really can’t fathom her mind and anguish any more.

lily wrote:

glad to hear it Clem.  imo it is probably her way of 'making a living' I have been caught a number of times giving a hand to one of these women who I think is very nice and maybe needs a helping hand right now, only to find she wants an arm and a leg to go with it.  

I am very sorry to hear you have had such a bad accident.  I am hoping you have family around.

wishing you all the best

thanks lily thankfully I do have family around who have been amazingly supportive around my exes desire for exclusivity