longaway, thank you for your response. I think you're right. When I first found out about what was happening, I texted him almost every day to ask how he was doing. He hardly responded, and that made me anxious, and I texted and called even more, worrying about his mental state. This made him feel pressure and he started avoiding me. At one point, he just said "please stop, I need space right now". So for the past several weeks, I have let him be the one to initiate contact, and he has really appreciated me stepping back. It's hard, but the last thing I want to do is cause him more stress and anxiety. So, I'm taking your advice and I will be watching him for cues, and letting him open up when he's ready. My heart goes out to you, and everyone here. And I really appreciate you taking the time to help me. xo
@elle, I would love to be able to talk with them both about how they are doing. I think right now, they're not quite ready. I've noticed when I ask about other things, they are both quite responsive. I will definitely present myself as open if they want to talk about it. Thank you so much for your advice and encouragement. Honestly, until I came on to this site, I didn't know how any of us would make it through this time. But you all have given me hope that I can be there for them and love them through it. hugs!
