Longwayhome,
That lost confidence seems to me one of the hardest hits we take. I wrote that post almost three years ago now, and I still haven't fully recovered my own confidence--in so many registers. Like you, I was a pretty confident woman. I think perhaps one reason for my loss of confidence (and I think I've written about this before, too), is that I don't trust myself, don't trust my perceptions. I don't have confidence that my conclusions about what I'm seeing are accurate, because how could I? I was so blind to such a deep seated thing in my husband, didn't have a clue for the entire three decades plus of our marriage that he was harboring his hidden sexuality. I am confident about my skills, about my ability to do the things I know how to do, but this other thing is harder to overcome, and that other confidence difficult to regain.
