OOHC 
That is exactly correct and what hurts me the most is that I see the progression, the i would never to the that is what I do now but wont ever go further. 
The lie he told his aunt and myself that he denied telling me (gas lighting) was that when he went to Virginia 7/3/19-7/5/19 (came home early as I wanted him home on Sunday night) that he wanted to come home because he missed us but also because they dressed too much for him and that he realizes he wont go any further than he is now and also that he will cut back some. Then he comes home in tight ass shorts with rips in them that he got from his female cousin Jamie, they were hers. When i said what his idea of stepping down some was he told me he never said that. But, when i talked to his aunt she told me that is exactly what he told her. But then he doesnt know why I dont believe him