Hi Willow - My former husband has never admitted that he was gay, and I frankly had not realized it myself at the time of our divorce (many years ago now). However, he was cheating with someone and I knew it. Toward the end of our marriage, he would often make comments that suggested that I was cheating too, although he never showed any signs of being turned on by that idea. I always thought it was a way to "balance out" his own cheating, so it wouldn't look as bad to himself or others. I think what Ignorance said above is also a possibility, that he might have been looking for an open marriage of sorts. I think my former spouse wanted either out of the marriage altogether or something like an open marriage. He said things that suggested I might be cheating and I thought that in a certain way, he was even encouraging it, so that he would have some sort of "out" for his own bad behavior. Like you, I never had any desire to be with anyone else. I thought we had marriage problems and wanted to work on fixing them; I did not want another person.
