Demons-halo wrote:

I live in Mass.
Because of a situation beyond my control I have been sharing a bedroom with my boys. It was never a problem before but now she has a issue with it. She says if anyone finds out DSS will come and take our kids. I don't really believe her wish I did but I can't help but think it's a plan by her to make it so my daughter can't come downstairs to sleep on the weekends and vacations because I will be on the couch were she usually sleeps. I wish my trust wasn't so broken with her. But right now I just can't take her word for it. And I want to get ahead of this before she really starts. Thanks for any help in advance.

That might be the silliest thing I've ever heard regarding legal threats.  You are more than welcome to sleep in any room of your house.  Clearly you are not abusing your children so there are absolutely zero grounds for anyone to come take your kids.   Call her bluff and tell her to stop being stupid. 

You should plan a few visits to attorneys.  Most will give free or low cost intro sessions where you can ask a bunch of questions.  Start by asking "what not to do".  In other words.. figure out what would be the biggest mistakes you could make.  Two of them are..  threatening, hitting, abusing your wife or kids and moving out of the house.  If you avoid those two things you should be fine.  But there are a lot of other little things to make sure you do correctly.  Start researching divorce law in your state.  Doing this doesn't mean you have to file right now.. you are just getting a very important education. 
 

Demons-halo wrote:

I thought it sounded stupid myself and was just another I want my way and my way only now do it and to keep my daughter away. She hates how close me and the kids have gotten since this has started.I will start researching in my free time which isn't much now a days.

I have my own bed we just share the room. I told them once that I was going to have to start sleeping on the couch. Both of my boys looked at me like I had 5 heads. They said I had a bed and it was in the room with them and not to leave. My kids have been awesome and supportive they don't know everything that's going on. But they know mom and dad are having problems. Since mom moved upstairs and took their sister with her even though she would rather be with us. I hate what she is doing to our family and that she doesn't want to see what's actually going on around her.

The wife wants her to sleep upstairs during school nights. On the weekends and during vacations she can sleep downstairs. She hates being up there. Everyone shuts their doors at night and she feels very isolated and alone. As far as living separate lives I don't know. It's this weird place we are in right now. It's hard to put into words. It's like she wants to separate herself from us and what's going on but at the same time she gives the vibe of not wanting to. She Bitches about how she only rents a room upstairs and has no say in anything else.  (she pays shit I pay the rent)
I get so confused and frustrated and it puts me at a serious disadvantage when dealing with her. I want to reach out and help and suggest her coming back downstairs with her family and we would figure something out. But I know it's a caring gesture but she will just get pissed and yell.