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HeldHostageInHerCloset wrote:
As far as filing, She doesn't seem to know how much I know yet. Do I just file and have her served, or do I sit down with her first knowing that regardless of what she says, I've got to carry through?
I would not air any grievances, that will do nothing except make her mad and defensive. You want to give her a golden bridge to walk her butt out of your life.
Super, I think that's ultimately the tightrope I have to walk. I'll see what the lawyer says next week. I believe right now, I've got enough to avoid alimony and likely get majority custody, So those grievances may have to come out regardless. Though a shorter cheaper process would be nice, it may be worth the fight. But... that may just be inexperience talking.
I'm praying for you and your family.
- HeldHostageInHerCloset
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I've been dormant for a bit, but today marks 2 years since I discovered her IG account. I've been holding back on pulling the trigger, so many moving parts.. it's like watching wheel of fortune and someone has 1 letter left to guess on an obvious answer, and they still get it wrong.. Wanting to have ever piece of the puzzle in place first... but in this case, the puzzle keeps expanding with more and more blanks. Some girl she's been dog sitting for thru an app service, she started texting as much as 2300 texts in a 2 week period. More bars, it's constant.
Just noticed a charge to a shared account to what I would consider a gay bar. it markets itself as "inclusive" but most of their content/events are gay/queer focused... drag shows, etc. That'll be fun to ask about.
My daughter graduated and i wanted to pull the trigger, but then had to go out of town for the week.. now I'm back and she's gone. She was gone every night while I was traveling. Just left the kids with our oldest.
at least I get the bed to myself.
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Just catching up here Heid - I remember first getting the bed to myself, weird after so long with someone but it's the first time I actually slept in a long time. But nightmares of him being in bed with me and me kicking and screaming for him to get out 
Thinking of you - "Marie"
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Held,
Congrats on your daughter graduating! You should be proud.
I attended my kids graduation also and had to interact with my GX. No issues and only had a few shakes. But I would do anything for my kids including face her.
Is sounds like your kids are taking care of themselves anyway 50% of the time...so I would think it wont change much if you separate.
PS. It took me sometime to go back to the bed from my safe spot even after she left. It seems so silly when I look back but I remind self it was a witches den.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7
- HeldHostageInHerCloset
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This week has been one of those, where I was just ready to dump everything on her... may still.
Brother has been sick dealing with cancer. He goes to 2 different clinics in different cities. He told me last week one told him to call in Hospice, but the other was still looking for trials. Tuesday he goes to the ER, ends up admitted to ICU, Wed wake up to my mom calling saying they were trying to stablize him that he was losing a lot of blood. So I jolt out of bed, grab some stuff and I'm out the door (live 2 hours away). He's stable now, seems it was an ulcer that's been "fixed", but still in ICU...
Anyway, I'd not told her anything about him in maybe months, she didn't go to christmas with us, so she didn't know about his more recent decline. So basically just running out the door saying my brother might be dying.
Just hoping she asks why I've not said anything. If I can't trust her, I don't need her. What value is the sympathy of a liar? Got back home last night, she was gone. Out late again. Both been home all morning, not a word spoken yet.
Local Pride month kick-off parties start this weekend. Our 20th anniv is in a couple weeks. Fun days ahead.
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Thread Starter- HeldHostageInHerCloset
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When I got to the hospital, my brother was awake and doing ok, but was going thru accounts removing me as a beneficiary because of her.
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Thread Starter- Ellexoh_nz
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..... If I can't trust her, I don't need her.....
That is a revealing statement. You have so much going on at the moment. Concentrating on your brother sounds like the better choice.
What is holding you hostage in her closet?
And what has your wife got to do with your brother removing you as a beneficiary?
Elle
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Oh goodness. sorry to hear about your brother's cancer, that must be awful.
It sounds to me like you need to get to that divorce as quick as you can.
wishing you all the best, I am close to my brother, he too is facing a cancer issue, hopefully not too serious but it's enough to give me the idea of how much I would miss him if he died first. wishing you all the best.
- Rob
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I too ask what use fo we have fir them...if they can't even watch the kids... mine can take them shopping and give them the illusion it's her money she's spending...
Its time for you to leave..your season with her us drawing to an end. But take care of your brother first. Let her be out and at the parades.. do all that needs to be done for your family and kids. Plan your exit and when its time you'll know. All in your time.
PS. So many perils in this world. ...one could get sick, an accident..etc...but these spouses go and create perils.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7