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- lily
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Re: Embracing my husband's same sex attraction
yes you are a bit bossy if you don't mind my saying, Alex. 
Years ago I remember this Cornishman telling me that when his daughter was being conceived he saw a little pink fairy coming in the window. That I can believe, it makes sense to me. No problem with that.
Not keen on the genderless reincarnation idea, it doesn't really gel with my experience of life. I really don't think it works, particularly in the face of modern biology.
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- Ellexoh_nz
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Re: Embracing my husband's same sex attraction
Alex1984 wrote:
I cordially ask others to abide by the rules of this board: refrain from posting if you are not currently in a committed relationship with an SSA partner...
No I won't. THAT is not what this board was supposed to be for. It's for the straight partner, not a content MOM partner, and
I respond to any straightspouse who is, I feel, needing advice/support in a situation where we often need it from those who have gone through it.
Your title for this thread clearly states that
you don't need any support or advice.
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KIA KAHA
- Alex1984
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Re: Embracing my husband's same sex attraction
I am a straight partner that is (so far) content in my MOM. We are 10 months into this journey and I plan on posting here for another 2 years. It is important to share the experiences of the first critical 3 years post-disclosure. I will only cut it short if we separate, which I will also post about if it happens.
I can't stop you from posting. Support is always welcome, but you are correct, Elle, I don't require any advice from you at this point.
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Thread Starter- Alex1984
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Re: Embracing my husband's same sex attraction
Hi Team,
I thought I would post monthly updates here. I am minimizing my forum interaction, so will not be reading or replying to comments or checking other sections of this forum. If you need to reach me - send me a direct message.
Life has been stable. Nothing new to report on my husband's discovery front.
We remain monogamous (for now). I am starting to get annoyed at my therapist, who basically was trying to convince me that open relationship is the healthiest relationship structure in our situation. I don't judge couples that are in an open relationship, we very seriously considered it ourselves, but I don't think it is "the healthiest". Hard enough to manage one human connection, try adding more and it's a total mindf*ck.
I told my husband, I won't be checking his phone or apps anymore (at least for now - I got really tired of being that woman). With this, he deleted all the apps and "friend zoned" the guy he's had WhatApp chats with. He says he doesn't want any distractions. Nether do I. We put our phones down each night and just enjoy each other's company.
It's spring where we live! I breathe in the air and look optimistically into the future. I have learned a lot this past year and made a lot of genuine new friends. I've also been in a lot of pain. But now it's gone and I feel good. I will take stock and make sense of things some time later - now I am enjoying a clear head. I have stopped reading forums and articles and thinking about sexuality - be it my husband's or anyone else's. Who the f*ck cares, really.
Life is good. Sex is good. Weather is good. Kids are almost finished with their exams - phew. Family cat is dying - something we need to be strong for and rely on each other. We are taking this world one step at a time.
Stay strong everyone!
Corny advice of the day I wanted to share: "Don't save your marriage - save yourself, your marriage will save itself if it was meant to be" 
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