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- Upside
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Re: How long did it take???
lily wrote:
There's a tiger eating my toes - let's just wait til he gets to the ankles before deciding if I will run away or not.
This is good.
I'd agree – run, don't walk. Every second spent post-disclosure was wasted in lies and gaslighting. There is no fix for someone who treats their "best friend" like the enemy.
- Rob
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Re: How long did it take???
I see both sides.
I see the hindsight about divorcing quicker, living in the abuse longer, having less time to start over.
I see the need too stay for financial reasons, the kids lives, the legal process.
I think everyone is doing the best they can ..there is no one size fits all. Each way has pluses and minuses..not everyone can endure abuse or has the financial means to leave etc.
TGT is a horrible thing. My hats off and deep respect for anyone going through it nd dealing with it in whatever manner they can. In this life and the next God will see.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7
- Ellexoh_nz
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TGT is a horrible thing. My hats off and deep respect for anyone going through it nd dealing with it in whatever manner they can....
❤️ And I second that
Elle
KIA KAHA
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Re: How long did it take???
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Last edited by MJM017 (August 14, 2021 9:58 pm)
No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa
- Papagumdrop
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Re: How long did it take???
I fought it, thinking I needed to stay for the kids, for 6 months. My son had just been born 6 months earlier and that made it extra hard to accept and move on. Then I accepted it and she moved out 4 months later. What I saw as keeping my promise to love and care for her only cost me. Everyone has their own speed but I encourage you to separate when you can and file as soon as possible. My state had a one year waiting period to file so I had to do that but I put it off even longer hoping she would stay in state but finally finalized it in December 2020. She announced she was leaving the next month so I guess I was correct lol.
Bottom line take care of yourself first, and part of that self care is likely making as healthy a break as possible. My Ex left the state today to move in with her girlfriend on our daughters first day of school and I finally feel like I can breathe. Which is good since I will need that breath to comfort my children. Save your breath for yourself and others who really need it.