Yes, Yes, Yes.  I'm interested in everyone's opinions, regardless of who you are.  Fantastic idea. 

I also think this would be a good idea.  As someone who is married to a closeted cross-dressing transgendered person, the issues in my MOM are somewhat different than for those in a gay/straight relationship (no move to an open marriage, for one).  

Definitely a good idea.  Not all MOMs are failures and having support for those who wish to make it work without all the negativity from those whose MOMs did not work out would be great.  Those who didn't succeed are entitled to their feelings but those who are newbies also need to know that there are those who DO succeed and all is not hopeless.  I hope that the admins can do this.  

Denise in NJ

Lily,
  Thank you so much for giving voice to the pressure I myself have been experiencing to stay in my marriage.  The pressures are so many, external (social and financial) and internal (all the internalized expectations that because marriages are "forever" we can never say "enough").
   I fight with myself all the time, second guessing my second guessing.  Knowing others make their MOMs work, I feel there's pressure on me to make ours work, even though I know that my spouse will not make the same effort or expect himself to.  
  Here's the realization I had this morning, one more pressure to stay, one reason it's so hard for me to call it quits: when my spouse came out to me, I felt, as many have, as though my past was suddenly all a lie, that what I experienced was all called into question because my spouse was not the person I thought he was then.  My spouse kept saying, "no, what happened happened as you experienced it then," when the fact is that we always view the past through present eyes, and when the present changes so very much, we view the past through those changes.  Our present selves are always in a relationship to our past selves, and when so great a disjunction opens between them, one precipitated not by us but by our spouses, we feel alienated from our pasts, unable to create the narrative that can unite them.  That sense of loss, that my past was all a lie, was externally generated, by my spouse's disclosure.
  My spouse, however, was also right: the past did happen as it happened, when the past was the present it was real, and I, then, incorporated it into myself and into the narrative of my life and my marriage and my self. And now, contemplating leaving my marriage, I realize that I feel colossally sad that I will lose the other half of the equation: my past self's sense of the experiences as they happened.  To retain that past creates another pressure, one internally generated, to stay.