OurPath Open Forum

This Open Forum is funded and administered by OurPath, Inc., (formerly the Straight Spouse Network). OurPath is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit that provides support to Straight Partners and Partners of Trans People who have discovered that their partner is LGBT+. Your contribution, no matter how small, helps us provide our community with this space for discussion and connection.


BE A DONOR >>>


You are not logged in. Would you like to login or register?

Welcome to the OurPath (formerly Straight Spouse Network) Open Forum.
This forum is for discussion of issues related to Mixed Orientation relationships only, that is when one partner is heterosexual (straight) and one is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning.
If this does not apply to your topic, please find another forum.
* Please be aware this is a public forum, do not post any personally identifiable information you do not wish to make public.
* Opinions posted here, including that of the Administrator, are the poster's own and do not necessarily reflect the views or policies of OurPath.
* As a peer-to-peer network, any advice given is that of a peer, based on personal experience, and should not be considered professional in nature.
* Any discussion of LGBT related issues is acceptable provided it remains constructive and respectful of other viewpoints. Hateful, degrading, or prejudiced speech and/or personal attacks will not be tolerated.
NOTE: Due to recurring spam abuse, you must register to post.


  • Index
  •  » Support
  •  » As the days go by

    • 1 2  Jump to

     

    February 3, 2020 9:34 am  #11

    OutofHisCloset
    Member

    Offline


    Re: As the days go by

    I don't mean to stress you further but one reason to seek a divorce as soon as you possibly can is that it severs your financial liability for his debts--and as one transwoman online advised wives,  transitioning spouses can rack up LOTS of debt.  As you know already, this works like an addiction: the more they do, they more they way.  When they're in the "pink fog," they're not rational.  

    MJM's suggestion to create a "getaway fund" out of small amounts of cash that might come your way is a very good one.  Also pack a suitcase for you and your daughter and keep it in a secure spot, maybe at a friend's.

     

    February 3, 2020 1:45 pm  #12

    Rob
    Member

    Offline


    Re: As the days go by

    SS,

    In almost all,situations i highly recommend against mediation..i think mediation works if you have a normal reasonable spouse.

    Does anyone on this board,think they have normal,reasonable, spouse?

    You dont have to justify here or to anyone why you stay ..we get it.

    I think your plan is sound..open a checking account..squirrel away money..gather strength.  You will know when you cant take it anymore and its worth selling your organs to get away.  I look back and dont know,how I was able to tolerate what i did..my family thought i was crazy..but i was maintaining status quo..gathering strength.

    If i had to,do it over again, I think I would have filed sooner..maybe stood up for myself more. But in the end it didnt really matter..it was pomp and circumstance..whether it takes 2 months, 2 years or 5 years its important to come,to terms,with the fact they they have destoyed the marriage and one person cannot fix it.  We are not gods with omnipotent powers..but neither are they.

    "For we walk by faith, not by sight .."  2Corinthians 5:7
     

     

    1 2  Jump to

  • Index
  •  » Support
  •  »  As the days go by

    • Board footera

     

    Powered by Boardhost. Create a Free Forum