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General Discussion » Prevent Trans in Children » July 23, 2024 10:57 pm

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My child has been saying he’s “a girl.” He is almost four but this started over a year ago. I would like to find some resources to support him in embracing his biological gender. I’m having trouble finding anything online, which isn’t politically motivated towards “trans rights.” Thanks for your help

Support » Telling Friends » March 23, 2023 9:41 am

masterly
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Hi all,

My discovery happened exactly a month ago, so this is all very new. I'm planning to see some friends next week and I want to talk about my life and how much I've been struggling because of this situation. However, our couples therapist (and others) have advised against telling mutual friends or family members if we are trying to work things out.  How have you all handled communicating with friends? I wish I could express the depths of my suffering, but also realize there is no way they could ever understand, so maybe it will be unfulfilling to talk about it anyway. 

Thanks,

Is He/She Gay » Live Trans Virtual Sex » February 25, 2023 9:26 pm

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Hi MJM thanks for your reply and I’m sorry that you had to deal with something similar. I just can’t seem to shake the contradiction of him saying “it’s just about masturbating and a bad habit,” and the fact that I discovered Male for Trans Women sex ads and chats all over his email, not to mention the live sex porn and vulgar chats about “cocks”.

I would really love to hear from more forum members who have encountered “straight men” who are into trans stuff.

Thanks all!

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » February 25, 2023 9:14 pm

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Thanks for offering to answer questions!🙏.

My husband said something similar to what was stated above— that trans sex porn and trans live sex (specifically trans women with penises) — was only about masturbating and being turned on.

He explained one physical encounter with a trans prostitute that was uncomfortable and unfulfilling.

He still claims he loves me and is turned on by me as a straight woman, his wife and the mother of his children. He said “I know I’m not gay because when I walk into a room I’m attracted to the women and have always felt that way since I was a kid”

Do gay men watch trans women porn?

Is my husband in denial about his sexuality?

Is He/She Gay » Live Trans Virtual Sex » February 24, 2023 7:19 pm

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Hi,
I walked in on my husband of 7 years yesterday sitting in front of his desk with one computer facing down towards his naked crotch with a live video going, and the other monitor broadcasting a Trans female cam model. I was previously unfamiliar with this type of platform that allows mutual broadcasting of sex acts in a live and participator chat + video mutual masturbation experience.

He has never expressed any interest in men of trans women before, or porn at all. I am open to porn, but to me this "live sex" experience crossed a line. I also learned that he has spent more than 500$ (this year alone) sending "tips" to these strangers (he is usually very frugal and complained about spending 150$ on a nice dinner once a year for our anniversary). This means he has spent thousands of dollars on these "women" over the course of our marriage. 

My main concern is 1) is he homosexual or wanting to transition? He said he never watches "gay porn" but he admitted that the reason why he likes trans porn is that it is when the person has a penis, it is easier to see how the person is visibly turned in response to watching him. Being turned on by seeing a hard penis, seems to be, like a trait of a gay man or a straight woman, is it not? He also admittedtted that he has been watching trans porn for over 10 years, since he was in grad school, which brings us to around 2013. Was trans porn even available back then? I'm sorry to sound naive, but it seems to me that one would have had to actively search out that kind of material back then, where as now it is accessible on regular "straight" porn sites. 

In case it helps with understanding my husband and his challenges -- in terms of his intimacy with me, it never has involved masturbation. He refuses to do it in front of me, he doesn't like head or blow jobs, our sex feels very transactional, not looking at one another, traditional positions, etc... He said he visits these sites 6-8 times a month, for the past 14 years, thi

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