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Support » Should I stay or should I go? » June 20, 2022 10:57 am

Cali916
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I recently posted on here about my husband coming out as bisexual and since then he has come out as gay, in love with another man and we just decided to divorce. I see the same red flags in your story as I did in my own 12 years ago. I also found Craigslist ads on the computer history and he denied even being bisexual for so many years. I can't say I regret staying though. We have three beautiful children and built an amazing business. However I do want to tell you where this could end up. It will not be an easy road and my guess would be you could end up here as I am. I wish you the very best of luck, I really do ❤️

Support » Time to vent » April 24, 2022 12:39 am

Cali916
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Thank you for your reply. I do agree if it were a woman it would be 100% different. My emotions are just all over the place. We've had so many emotional conversations hours and hours long and the seperation was an idea we came up with together. I'm just so in love with him still I think that's why I'm giving into him exploring but it makes me sick to my stomach. We had this beautiful life we built with our three children and it's all coming to an end.

Support » Time to vent » April 23, 2022 7:34 pm

Cali916
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This is my first post on here and I sit here writing this so sad and not even with a specific question I guess, just support from others maybe going through the same. My husband and I met when we were only 14. We moved in together at 18 years old, married at 20 and now have been married almost 17 years. We have 3 children and run two businesses together. I knew of a bisexuality throughout our marriage by finding gay porn here and there but we were so happy and I felt his love for me and our sex life was good. Another guy came into our life two years ago who is gay. We all became great friends but over the past year or so I could tell my husband was becoming obsessed with this guy. He unfortunately was diagnosed with a disease 8 months ago that caused a ton of stress, depression and also erectile dysfunction. Since then our marriage declined and the happiness with the other guy increased. I mentioned it to him how i felt but he always denied anything happening. Long story short my husband did tell me a month ago he is bisexual and now the other guy and my husband have both admitted they have feelings for eachother. We separated the day after he admitted having feelings for him. We say it could be temporary and he doesn't know how he truly feels since they haven't done anything. By that I mean kissing or sex or anything. He definitely didn't cheat on me and I do believe that. So right now we are stuck in this seperation. I've given him permission to "explore" with this other guy and I told the guy I am ok with it too. I was also very close friends with this other guy. I just can't believe this is all happening. I miss who my husband was so so badly but I know I can't get the old him back. Am I supposed to wait for him to explore but then what, there will always be suspicions and our marriage can never be the same now. Any imput would be so appreciated.

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