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| Strategies for MOM's » It's Mostly Working but... » December 9, 2024 10:36 pm |
- Pete
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@MarieSmith-Drafting an agreement to put what we had in a long lost and unfound signed copy of our pre-nup would be a wise thing have in my back pocket. We both are pretty equal financially, but good to get something written down. Thx
| Strategies for MOM's » It's Mostly Working but... » December 9, 2024 10:31 pm |
- Pete
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@Alex1984-Better out than in--love it! Yes, I think the group therapy for folks in the same situation may help, less isolating for her, still it's a progression, and curious if it'll be a stabilizing influence or cause for more dramatic changes.
| Strategies for MOM's » It's Mostly Working but... » December 9, 2024 10:49 am |
- Pete
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Hi Everyone
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I've been following Our Path/SSN for a few years now. The articles, podcasts and book recommendations have been helpful. I posted this in Our Stories over 2 years ago and have updated it periodically as the story has changed. I'm bringing it into this forum to get your thoughts on the recent developments in the last 2 paragraphs. Thank you!!!
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My story sounds similar to many here, I've been married 24 years and we have an 18 and 21 year old. Broadly speaking after our second child was born sexual intimacy was greatly reduced, there wasn't much explanation offered when I questioned "Why am I always initiating intimacy".
By mid-2014 my wife was spending a lot more time with a neighbor friend of ours and ultimately they started an affair. One of the things that's odd about my story is that the 3 of us were great friends even while my relationship with my wife became less and less intimate. My wife and I still had a great time together in all other respects.
On one of my attempts to have a deeper discussion about happiness and what the heck was going on with our sex life, and after another evasive set of answers, I decided I was up for anything. The neighbor's wife and I, the friend that my wife was having an affair with, started a year long flirt fest, and eventually we started an affair that lasted 2 years.
Yes, my wife was sleeping with the neighbor's wife from 2014-2018 and I was also sleeping with her from 2016-2018 and neither of us knew it. However, her husband eventually figured it out and at the end of an ugly weekend of us both thinking the other was going to hear from the husband, we sat down and told each other the truth. We were both shocked.
So as it turns out my wife was more into the idea of being a lesbian than the neighbor, and was ultimately hoping to steal the neighbor's wife away and live happily ever after. However, immediately after the the big blow-up and the neighbor's wife stopped seeing us, we went
| Our Stories » It's Mostly Working » April 1, 2022 1:29 pm |
- Pete
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Hi Everyone
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This is my first post but I've been following Our Path/SSN for a few years now. The articles, podcasts and book recommendations have been helpful....thank you.
My story sounds similar to many here, I've been married 22 years and we have 2 teenagers. Broadly speaking after our second child was born sexual intimacy was greatly reduced, there wasn't much explanation offered when I questioned "Why am I always initiating intimacy".
By mid-2014 my wife was spending a lot more time with a neighbor friend of ours and ultimately they started an affair. One of the things that's odd about my story is that the 3 of us were great friends even while my relationship with my wife became less and less intimate. My wife and I still had a great time together in all other respects.
On one of my attempts to have a deeper discussion about happiness and what the heck was going on with our sex life, and after another evasive set of answers, I decided I was up for anything. The neighbor's wife and I, the friend that my wife was having an affair with, started a year long flirt fest, and eventually we started an affair that lasted 2 years.
Yes, my wife was sleeping with the neighbor's wife from 2014-2018 and I was also sleeping with her from 2016-2018 and neither of us knew it. However, her husband eventually figured it out and at the end of an ugly weekend of us both thinking the other was going to hear from the husband, we sat down and told each other the truth. We were both shocked.
So as it turns out my wife was more into the idea of being a lesbian than the neighbor, and was ultimately hoping to steal the neighbor's wife away and live happily ever after. However, immediately after the the big blow-up and the neighbor's wife stopped seeing us, we went through a process of rebound sex for a few weeks (initiated by her every time), then a few months of crying because she missed her girlfriend, then eventually a realization that neither of us wanted a divorce becau
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