freedmyself wrote:

.... rainbow-washed ....

 
What a wonderfully descriptive  word!

Private 🤗 10 years. That's a long time to still be carrying a weight as heavy as a dishonest husband, though you surely have learned much about yourself as those years have passed.
The 38yr r'ship with my former partner ended just a couple of years ago so I'm just a newbie in all this. Family is what has helped me through, and I had no qualms whatsoever about telling those close to me. Why shouldn't we tell our truth!
But yes as others have said..you pick and choose a confidante carefully because judgement comes easily when people have  been hoodwinked into believing  that somebody finally being their "authentic self" deserves only kindness and applause.
More importantly though.. you have to be confident and accepting that what has happened was in no way your fault.
You didn't make him bisexual.

You've found your tribe Private. The Forum has been quiet of late, not sure why so don't be put off if it seems empty lol.

Elle

maggiemay58 wrote:

....... My husband, though, really loved it and wants to continue having sex with men...and I'm welcome to tag along (joining in, taking photos, etc) if I wish.
So how do we navigate it all moving forward? 

 

You sound like me A, my former partner, was always suggesting stuff...even telling me he'd be fine with me going off for a few days with another man. He was fine with me sitting in the room when he was fucking somebody else, and vice versa (I cringe now at the thought of where this led). Give a bisexual man an inch and he'll take a mile. 
AND he'll make it seem like he's doing you a favour. 

My advice is....think about what you want your life and love to look like in ten years from now, in twenty years. And whether letting him be the person he is...is the best thing for your r'ship and future. 
Sometimes we get left behind and don't get to walk beside the person we thought we'd be beside forever.

Elle
 

lily wrote:

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Give Us Our Name Back.  

 

There was no survey? Or vote about the name change?

Yep... give straightspouses our name back

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lily wrote:

oh goodness I hadn't noticed they'd changed the banner.

LOL...I finally clicked that the word "trans" had been removed from the banner. I've realized that's how they work. Quietly, under the guide of inclusion and kindness.
Also I suppose being a charity, and beholden to the US government (tax free?)...ourpath had to remove the word to keep their tax free status.
Trans ideology has worked its way into government departments, schools, hospitals, universities (here in New Zealand too) and it's going to take a monumental effort to get rid of it because most people aren't even aware it's happening.

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HeldHostageInHerCloset wrote:

I finally pulled the trigger.....The first steps taken, but the path is uncharted, unknown....

 

Great news Held. That first step we take....even with info, proof etc.....is the biggest. But once I myself took it 
I knew I could never retrace those steps and even if my life, my situation became less than what I expected I
just had to face it with my head up, eyes wide open, believing in myself.

Elle