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1 | Support » Counseling for the Straight Wife » August 2, 2018 3:48 pm |
- Bec
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Walkbymyself I could have written your exact post. I too reach out to a lawyer yesterday. 2-1/2 weeks ago I told my GID that I needed a separation and wanted him to leave. The very next day it was like the conversation never happened. How do the do that??? I’ve been in this stupid cycle for going on 2 years now. I need out!!!
| Support » Can some People not mend and have permission to end » February 10, 2018 1:40 pm |
- Bec
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Andrea,
You may not feel it right now but you are more than this! You are greater than this mess we find ourselves in. Turn the love you hold for him on yourself. You deserve to be loved, you deserve to be happy. Will you “get over” this? No it’s part of your journey and who you are. Use it for good. There is someone out there that needs to hear your story. I believe that God has allowed me to walk through this journey(I’m very much still in the thick of it) because someday someone will cross my path that needs me to understand. You CAN do this. Love yourself enough to fight.
| General Discussion » Merry Christmas » December 25, 2017 9:57 am |
- Bec
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Merry Christmas to my lifeline. Snow here too
| General Discussion » Just found out » September 4, 2017 10:06 pm |
- Bec
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Yes Happy birthday!! I hope you were able to enjoy it
| Support » AARP (Don't laugh!) & finding a job » September 3, 2017 3:28 pm |
- Bec
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Great news!! Keep fighting the good fight! 😊
| General Discussion » Finally reached out » September 1, 2017 4:29 pm |
- Bec
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I finally reached out to my local Straight Spouse support group. I feel like I've been spinning my wheels and not getting anywhere. While my family loves me, I think it's much easier to just avoid this topic of conversation. Everyone strong enough in my circle seems to push me backwards. Tells me to try harder and give him a chance to show me it was just a porn addiction. Although I love this group and get great advice, I think I need real life, in my face support. Spoke for the first time today to someone who really understands. There seems to. E something about actually speaking the words. Hoping this will help me find the strength I need.
| General Discussion » Where in the world.....are you? » July 7, 2017 5:17 am |
- Bec
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Ohio here
| Support » How can they continue to deny » June 22, 2017 1:39 pm |
- Bec
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It is all very overwhelming and I often feel like I can't breathe. I'm wanting the kids and I to stay in the house. I want him to leave. My thought 12 months could give them time to adjust to their father and I not being together, before I uproot them from their home too. I don't know anymore... I get overwhelmed by the big picture and tend to over think things way too much. Not having a job yet scares me. I'm still on severance and have a couple things in the works but that on top of TGT just really knocks me down on self confidence. Baby steps. That's what I'm trying to focus on.
| Support » How can they continue to deny » June 22, 2017 12:05 pm |
- Bec
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I just think the less I can disrupt their lives the better. Give them time to adjust. With his work schedule 75% of their time is spent with me.
Kel,
I know he probably won't leave, but I'm willing to sign something saying he isn't abandoning the kids. I don't think he'll agree to any of it to be honest. He is still in save the marriage mode. Save the marriage by making me feel guilty, not really working on any issues he might have. I really have no idea what my options are. It's all very overwhelming.
| Support » How can they continue to deny » June 22, 2017 6:48 am |
- Bec
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I'm not moving out. She told me to ask him to leave. I've spoke to one lawyer already but plan on speaking to a few more. I'm really hoping to stay in the house for at least 12 months with the kids.