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Strategies for MOM's » Happy MOM for 15 years and going (lesbian & str8 man) » May 28, 2021 2:06 am

Noname
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Dutchman,

Thank you for your reply. No worries if you don't get back to messages quickly. I am sure you have a lot going on as we all do. I have a few thoughts/questions, I would like to run past you. First I am in a better place mentally today, however I still woke up at 2 a.m. and can not sleep but I feel that will come with the territory for now. My wife and I had a decent night last night. We told he 17 year old son. That was helpful, he was very supportive and reassured that if it was him, he would do the same thing and work through this. He also told me (when my wife was putting the 3 year old to bed) "he thinks this will build a stronger relationship between my wife and I". In her life she has always been rejected by those who loved her when things were tough, including her father. For her she is not used to someone who will put up a fight to keep her, for me why on earth would I not because I value her so much and our family is wonderful. Anyways we had some drinks last night and she said "I wish I felt like this forever" I asked what she meant by that and she told me the feelings she has towards me when she is drinking. It is a wonderful feeling for me however this time I took it with a grain of salt because on Mon night is was similar when we had drinks together but then the next morning it was back to reality. So it is interesting to me that when she has alcohol she gets that attraction sexual back. Is this something you discovered too I know on your wife's post she mentioned having a glass on wine to fill your needs? Obviously drinking all the time is not an option but it does give me hope that deep down there is the desire for me and over time I can get it to come out sober. In the meantime I can just know that the times we do have drinks we will have a temporary connection. Does that make sense or am I just being crazy?

Another thing I would like to ask. Did you and your wife live like a normal married couple just knowing that there is something miss

Strategies for MOM's » Happy MOM for 15 years and going (lesbian & str8 man) » May 27, 2021 8:34 am

Noname
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Dutchman

I can't thank you enough for sharing. I am on day 3 of my wife telling me she is a lesbian and I discovered MOM on day 1, however it was just a paper that was written. I read it and so did my wife. She was amazed that there are couples that work through this. So was I. The problem for me was not knowing if there was anyone out there that made it work for a long period of time. After reading your post earlier I was able to actually fall asleep (not for long I had to get back to work today) but it was a sense of relief. I by no means think this is going to be easy. I love how you describe your journey as "your journey" and the timeline is "your timeline" I hope to not have to go through the length you took to get to such a happy place, if so then so be it. At least for us there is some resources starting this journey unfortunately for you, you were at it alone and creating the resources. I hope you check in often because I can certainly use your advice as I travel this road.

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