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| Is He/She Gay » Do I even ask/confront? » January 5, 2021 12:16 pm |
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Phoenix, I snooped bc it used to be a problem with him DMing women for small talk. People he doesn’t even know. Liking their pictures...telling them he prefers longer hair than shorter hair....liking their sexy pictures...I snooped bc of my insecurities of him always talking to women. I asked him what I was or wasn’t doing that he always felt the need to get like some sort of validity or something From other women . He said he just did it and he didn’t know why. But that he’d stop. I snooped this time bc of the women! Not bc of the men!? And now I’m like what is going on??? I never would’ve thought this!? but now all these things are coming into my head...am I creating this in my head??? But why would a guy friend that I talked about in the previous comment tell him he wishes my husband was there!? that is just straight weird to me....our sexual life was and is great but now I’m like...I don’t want it...he makes me feel loved and beautiful and tells me he loves me all the time. And that he’s attracted to me...he’s really been into doggy and now I’m like why!?! But am I overthinking this??
Long way home, I am looking into BTR.org now ...I’ve called two local offices and not heard back...thank you for the referral to them
| Is He/She Gay » Do I even ask/confront? » January 5, 2021 11:06 am |
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He already knows something is up, it is very hard for me to keep it in...I’m trying I really am...he is super loving. If I wouldn’t have opened that DM I wouldn’t have had any idea anything could possibly be wrong. I’ve not taken pictures yet maybe tomrrow. On another note I looked again this morning. Nothing new, but his two gay friends he has follow this person..assuming that’s how he found him..he’s in a new position at work and working on new hires..hiring one of his gay friends bc he “needs balance in the office bc of the drama and too many women and men’s girls club” which I’ve been fine with...no problem with gay men but now I’m trippin. He sent my husband a text with a picture of what he was doing...it was the Golden Gate Bridge from the beach and he said he was hiking. My husband replied “awesome!” This guy replied. “I wish you were here” wtf?!?? I am an over thinker I know this..but is stuff adding up or am I now just overthinking every little thing!? I am reaching out to some counselors this morning. I couldn’t sleep at all last night. I am a very strong person but this is making me sick to my stomach and I just can’t stop thinking. Thank you for your replies.
| Is He/She Gay » Do I even ask/confront? » January 5, 2021 12:45 am |
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I guess my question is, how do I ask? What do I say? I am so afraid. I am so scared. Do I say I went through your phone again and who’s this? And why are you following him? And his naked pictures? and that it’s not ok? Do I ask if he likes men?? He suffered through childhood trauma as have i.. I know that can play a part in things like this. Thank you for your replies.
| Is He/She Gay » Do I even ask/confront? » January 4, 2021 7:50 pm |
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I snooped on husbands phone and for a while he’s followed this random young gay man. I have no clue how he knows him...he lives 2.5 hours from us and does hair. I do hair....hes told him he likes his work...(yet he follows this guys personal ig account not his hair account) he’s messaged him twice about hair, once a while back and then a couple days ago. A while back I checked his phone and this guys picture came up first on my husbands ig feed it was the guy naked and covering his package with his hands taking a selfie in front of the mirror. I saw his DM from two days ago and he’s asking him about “platinum hair” and what it all entails...I’ve done his hair platinum before?? Over 20 years ago when we were youngsters...He knows what that entails and his profession now would NEVER allow that.. so why the BS small talk?? Then this morning I wanted to check out this guys profile and since he’s private I got on my husbands phone. This guy has TONS of naked pics of himself from the rear...or thongs showing his covered package or pics of like bondage leather strapped outfits. MY HUSBAND is deliberately FOLLOWING this guy!! That shows pictures like this. Is this normal??? He’s a complete stranger!? He’s had problems making small talk to women before and I’ve confronted and it’s gotten better but now this? I know i shouldn’t snoop and I told him a couple months ago I’d stop and I do stop but then I check again and this is what I found..I don’t know how to ask this without him flipping out, but I need to know...please help
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