New here...and new to this.

With the advent of Tiktok, comes the algorithm that controls the content.  My wife joined Tiktok about 4 months ago, and almost immediately found herself in the LGBT section. She found a group of people who were very supportive of her.  (She suffers from an autoimmune disease, anxiety and depression...all of which are medicated and I thought were in control.) 

So she did what anyone on tiktok does...started posting fun videos.  And in posting them, she started to attact a following...and in this following she found about 6 people who were in need of support...which is something she's very good at dealing with.  She gave these individuals a means to talk...either through snapchat or facetime.

One of these individuals she formed a relationship with eventually lead to her visiting this woman.  (In today's Covid world...she said they just sat in a car in a parking lot and watched tiktok videos and laughed.)  They had known each other for 3 weeks.  (Once again not thr smartest decision...but I supported it.)

A few days later...We were sitting on the sofa and I got a little frisky.  And she had a panic attack...full on...one of the worst I've ever seen.  She told me that she doesn't want to ever have sex with a man again...and that she prefers women now.  In the same conversation she also asked for a divorce.  (Also threw out that I needed counseling because I was a narcissist that had gaslight her for years...that shame on me for allowing society to not allow her to marry a woman...a whole LGBT manifesto...none of which I had ever heard before.)

Yesterday morning she ran off for 4 hours.  No warning just disappeared.

Tonight she has her new friend driving 90 minutes to a local bar to have drinks with.

We have been married for 20 years...have 3 wonderful children and I  thought a pretty nice life.  (Built our forever house, have newer vehicles, take a vacation or two yearlu.)  As in all marriages we did have had a rough patch or two ove