Ellexoh_nz wrote:

LOL...I finally clicked that the word "trans" had been removed from the banner
 

I always thought that addition was superfluous since we already mention LGBT+ which includes trans. While the federal government here has become whacky, we haven't had pressure.

Alex1984 wrote:

I think it's safer and more objective to say, 'This person acts like they are attracted to the same sex,' rather than saying, 'This person is gay'.
 

If someone is primarily attracted to the same sex (and not the other) it doesn't matter how they act, they ARE gay. Many people here are here because they got involved with someone who didn't act like who they really were. Not that such a relationship can't be maintained, but both parties must accept the reality, and not the "identity". I would love to identify as a young stud with washboard abs but in reality I'm an old man with an expanded middle.

OutofHisCloset wrote:

From my reading and perspective, too much of what passes for advice here on this section of the site can be characterized as proselytizing.  

That is one of the reasons this section was created. When someone posts something like "I am happy in my MOM" some will read it as "and you should be too or there's something wrong with you". Nothing could be further than the truth as every situation is different. This section was created to provide a place where someone could say that and not worry about negative reactions implying there is something wrong if you stay in one. All of our stories are different and have different outcomes. I considered it until I realized How miserable and enabling  had become in my marriage. If it had otherwise been happy I might have stayed.

OOHC and Elle,
He joined in January of this year. Previous posts seemed supportive and did not suggest he was the gay partner. 

Elle,

I've decided to leave it up for now. I don't know if this is so in your country, but in the US this has become a HUGE political issue with lots of misinformation and paranoia flying around from certain factions. Teachers are being accused, with no evidence, of trying to "convert" and/or "recruit" kids to be trans. This is one of many tactics they use to scare voters to vote their way. This reads like a post that would come from one of those factions. If something like that is coming from a 4yo, I wouldn't pay it much attention. Getting upset may cause the child to dig in. I have a 4yo niece who for almost a year said she wanted to stay a baby because it was easier. She eventually outgrew it.