Alex1984 wrote:

I think it's safer and more objective to say, 'This person acts like they are attracted to the same sex,' rather than saying, 'This person is gay'.
 

If someone is primarily attracted to the same sex (and not the other) it doesn't matter how they act, they ARE gay. Many people here are here because they got involved with someone who didn't act like who they really were. Not that such a relationship can't be maintained, but both parties must accept the reality, and not the "identity". I would love to identify as a young stud with washboard abs but in reality I'm an old man with an expanded middle.

OutofHisCloset wrote:

From my reading and perspective, too much of what passes for advice here on this section of the site can be characterized as proselytizing.  

That is one of the reasons this section was created. When someone posts something like "I am happy in my MOM" some will read it as "and you should be too or there's something wrong with you". Nothing could be further than the truth as every situation is different. This section was created to provide a place where someone could say that and not worry about negative reactions implying there is something wrong if you stay in one. All of our stories are different and have different outcomes. I considered it until I realized How miserable and enabling  had become in my marriage. If it had otherwise been happy I might have stayed.

OOHC and Elle,
He joined in January of this year. Previous posts seemed supportive and did not suggest he was the gay partner. 

Elle,

I've decided to leave it up for now. I don't know if this is so in your country, but in the US this has become a HUGE political issue with lots of misinformation and paranoia flying around from certain factions. Teachers are being accused, with no evidence, of trying to "convert" and/or "recruit" kids to be trans. This is one of many tactics they use to scare voters to vote their way. This reads like a post that would come from one of those factions. If something like that is coming from a 4yo, I wouldn't pay it much attention. Getting upset may cause the child to dig in. I have a 4yo niece who for almost a year said she wanted to stay a baby because it was easier. She eventually outgrew it.

I agreed to a stipulation that I not reveal the actual reason for our divorce until after our son (youngest) was out of high school. I agreed because revelation may have made him the object of bullying. However before he graduated, the married governor of New Jersey publicly came out at a news conference to avoid being outed by an aide (male) he was having an affair with. His loyal young attractive political wife was at his side, and from the look on her face it was obvious she didn't know and was in shock. This was huge local news as I live right across the river from New Jersey. One of the local TV stations contacted Amity Buxton for straight spouse guests on a local Sunday morning news-talk program and she referred them to me and another area woman. We agreed to go on as long as we were backlit and our faces not shown. I figured "who watches TV at 8AM on a Sunday morning anyway". Well turns out my ex and ex-MIL were. EX-MIL even called the host of the show to yell at him. Ex threatened to hold me in violation of our agreement. I told her "do your worst, it's my story to tell". There were no repercussions and she dropped it. I'm guessing she was told there was not much she could do about it anyway. 

Edit to say: However it was me paying the alimony and support. If it was the other way around there could have been something she could have done.