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    September 1, 2024 2:51 pm  #1

    seansayswords
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    Honestly, part of me is relieved

    My wife recently came out to me as a lesbian. We have 2 young children and have been having relationship issues for over a year. The revelation of my wife’s sexuality was a shock at first, but now that a little time has passed, it makes everything make so much sense.

    Has anyone else felt similar in this situation?

     

    September 1, 2024 3:59 pm  #2

    Sam (Admin)
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    Re: Honestly, part of me is relieved

    Absolutely. I felt many unpleasant things when my late ex came out, but I also felt relief, for the same reason and more. She tried to make me feel there was something wrong with me because she was unhappy. For a while, I tried acting or being what she said she wanted but eventually stopped because it was never enough. Once she was out it was obvious I could never be what she wanted and a great deal of pressure and guilt was removed. So don't feel guilty about being relieved. You have been.

     

    September 1, 2024 4:28 pm  #3

    lily
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    Re: Honestly, part of me is relieved

    yes, once I had worked out he was gay (he wasn't admitting to it) it was a lot of relief - exactly as Sam describes.

    For me it was relatively simple, and I feel for you - there is no easy options with young children involved.

    wishing you all the best. 

     

     

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