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Thu Sep 7 4:49 am  #1

items of interest re: TGT

articles of interest in one place

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Thu Sep 7 6:55 am  #2

Re: items of interest re: TGT

I disagree but agree with the first a bisexual person is better.      For many of us we never knew our spouses had same sex attraction (SSA)...   if we had known we probably would  have not dated or married them...there would not be a big secret..   For many of us with this secret out now our spouses can/could not be trusted...are they meeting their girl/boy friend for beer or is it a date?  Why should we have to wonder?  Who are they that they can have sex with and be attracted to either sex...are they gods that can do whatever they want?         


"For we walk by faith, not by sight .."  2Corinthians 5:7

Thu Sep 7 8:08 am  #3

Re: items of interest re: TGT

"Suddenly, they had to ask themselves if it’s worth giving up this amazing man simply because he has desires and wants to have relationships with other men."

SIMPLY?! I found that article particularly triggering. Ok maybe some people can cope with their partner needing other things, not a passing "ooh they're hot" - I'm sure we all do that but needing something is very different. And them needing it isn't anything that can be labelled simple!

I must be boring or scared or something because 'non heteronormative' behaviours aren't something I want to seek out in a partner. I'm all for a bit of fun and experimenting between 2 people who a re committed and monogamous but keep the polyamory, BDSM and all that away from me because it signifies much more than a bit of fun. They are needs that I'm never going to be comfortable with because I want to be someone's one and only.


Tue Oct 3 6:02 pm  #4

Re: items of interest re: TGT

Duped I totally agree.  I suppose there are some that can go with the flow but if you signed on for a heterosexual monogamous marriage I find it next to impossible to imagine changing the entire dynamic of that union.  If I wanted an open marriage I would have either not married or at least stated such at the outset.
Why marry?  For the optics?   To keep your closet safe from prying eyes?  Social pressure?  The desire for kids?  Gay denial?   
Absolutely none of those reasons gives anyone the right to rob me of years of my life and put my physical and mental health at risk.  Not one of those reasons matter more than my rights to the truth and honesty I was promised.

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