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Support » Devestated...just found out » Today 4:37 pm

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OMG Elisa I feel for you I was where you were and my heart deeply goes out to you.
I feel your pain and send you a big hug xxoo yes roller coaster of emotions is what you will go through..

Taking your wedding ring off must have been hard and even harder when he came to you and told you he wanted to live with the other man OMG my husband so said that too... 
Its ok to be mad and to grieve for what you had and you do lose your best friend but as time heals a new relationship will form but it does take time, it's only been 17 months for me and I still miss what I thought I had in a marriage... But yes take one day at a time till you are ready to be strong to take care you, as YOU  are important in this life too.... 

Take care lovely and look after you.
Big hugs from Vee 

Strategies for MOM's » MOM non-MOM??? » Today 3:37 pm

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B-Strong wrote:

MoM-non-MoM....people putting labels on things should get a job in a canning factory!....not one relationship is the same as any other remember that....we should all do what is right for us

We all come to this forum in varying degrees of confusion, mistrust, heartache, anger.....and to find the niche we're comfortable in can take several attempts. Keep posting anywhere you feel you need to post. There's no one member directing traffic....

Tears are a good cleanser. I thought mine would never cease to be just behind my eyes waiting for a trigger.... but my tears, though still there at times, are now not my body's emotional first recourse

I've edited thi 3 times now...I'm in the kitchen baking and

Strategies for MOM's » MOM non-MOM??? » Today 2:37 pm

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Hey guys, it was suggested that I write here because I am currently staying in my MOM (due to reasons of citizenship). I live out of the country and have currently applied for it and (hubby-in-denial (but just to me) has agreed to stay married to me until I obtain my citizenship).
However, we no longer live together, sleep together or love together. At times I get bamboozled and fall back into my 'fantasy world', but I do realize deep within my heart that this relationship just isn't gonna work. Though my heart wishes it would at times (who wouldn't after 14 years).
Yesterday was a bad day and today the dam broke and today I cried like a braying donkey. This morning I had to have one of my sweet rescue animals put to sleep. I had to dig a big hole and plant her in the vineyard, all alone. I cried .... a lot ....
Yesterday I went to the dentist with hubby. Hubby is their IT guy. I have always had some reservations about dentist. He is a great dentist, but there is just something not quite right, and an odd relationship there. My hygenist seems totally gay, he is getting married (to a very nice woman) next month. dentist is married with 5 kids (but there is a strange relationship there too).
Yesterday I arrived with hubby and the receptionist looked at me and said, "Oh ... we weren't expecting you ... there was a big "x" (or maybe "ex") over your name. The gay hygenist almost refused to clean my teeth ... eventually they fit me in. Hubby was very evasive the whole time and today called and asked if I wanted to talk. He noted that I was very 'sad' yesterday after the dentist and he hoped to 'distract' me (damn, that is what he has been doing the past 14 years!!!). My teeth ache today (they never ache after a cleaning) and the hygenist acted like a spurned lover during the whole thing. Initially he sent the receptionist to clean my teeth (the receptionist???), Then he finally arrived and started going off about how 'if it ever happens to him, then receptionist is going

General Discussion » Wikipedia entry » Today 7:25 am

Walk, you did such an awesome job on that entry! (You should edit more!!) Very fair and excellent. Good for you--such a great response to the problem!

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