Yes, I have. I still reside with him and we do not have sex anymore. I did notice long before I confronted him on being GID that we had issues in the bedroom. He didn't seem to pay much attention to my girly parts. He did not look me in my eyes while having sex, their was no passion at all for me as a woman. He wanted oral alot but.. did not reciprocate for me much ever. Many times he KNEW I was not pleasured and would not say he was sorry or would work on it but tell me he was tired or made me feel badly about my own body. I even went to surgery after having three children to get a tightening up for him. Still he wasn't happy , he started nagging for anal alot. He knew this was something I did not enjoy but continued to ask for it. I was not experienced with other men when we met so he was able to make me think some things we did in bed was what everyone did as he told me about many threesomes he had with 2 women, Hah! . I also seemed to only get him to complete orgasm while having anal oral or vaginal doggy style. He wanted the lights out or would close his eyes and turn his head away from me if I was on top. around 14 or 15 yrs ago I went and got us toys to liven things up in the bedroom, ya know, oils, a dildo, small anal vibrator. It did improve our sex life for a bit, however he was the one that was asking me to bring the dildo to bed..sometimes asking right in the middle of sex... I found out later ( through girl talk) that most men just aren't into doing that with their women and feel threatened almost by them.. Yeah, isn't easy, not at all and really screws up your sense of self worth as a woman. On board here.
Mrs Lonely, I had to chuckle at the last comment about sleeping with your head towards him.. I remember those days also. Hang in there.
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