Truth is truth. I know that's what you want to say, but depending on the kid's age, it could be tough. The younger ones know as well?
If that's the case, perhaps your counselor can help have a family session where you all openly talk about it?
Being lied to is something kids all understand. They also deserve the ability to talk about how mad/sad/hurt it makes them. Again, you may feel more supported too, and less worried about carrying around their Dad's very very big baggage.
I remember Moms saying to me that they didn't want to turn their kids against their fathers talking about abuse, cheating, etc. And I always remember that we talked about things being what they were. The thing is, he did lie. He did marry you. He did cheat. Those are all real things.
The common denominator is that you (and your kids--if they know), all have to grieve the losses of your family, your life as you knew it, the pain, the shame, the hurt, and deal with trust issues. Those are all very tough things. And it isn't as if they don't know they are going through them.
Silence never helps anyone. We know this all too well.
Peace to you, jkpeace.
Last edited by maresyd (December 10, 2016 6:11 pm)
