Look, it's an ever-changing world.  And I think I'm right in believing that there are a lot less straight people being.born with every generation.  But you know, we do still exist.  so my hope is that this forum will continue to give a voice to straight spouses - those of us who have been through the experience of waking up to the realisation our partner is not straight and found this forum know how invaluable it is.

I am going to be brave and make an observation based on my experience, and validated by the many stories I have read here - there is an overwhelming pattern of straights being abused in the marriage.  My ex never hit me, he never yelled at me, everybody including myself thought he was such a nice man - it was my lawyer who pointed out to me that he was being emotionally and financially abusive.  It's only with hindsight I can see how bad it was.

And from what I can see with the people I know who are getting on now and still in their MOMs - it only gets worse with age.

all the best, everyone, and wishing you a Happy Easter.