Today marks my one year anniversary since my now GXHID of 35 years left to live his other life which included meth and gay sex. We were separated last September and divorced in January. It has been a tough year! I had to separate the 35 years of married history in every part of our life, deal with the military issues (he is a retired Marine), only a few people in my circle knew about his gay lifestyle that I could vent to, and then the meth addiction too. Wow! I’ve lost friends and gained friends, and discovered who would be there when I really needed them. It took me going to individual and group therapy to realize he wasn’t worth the personal pain I was putting myself through, and the grief I was experiencing was normal and something I needed to work through. It has taken me a year, but I am in a much better place than I was one year ago. I still have bad moments, but nothing like when this first started. I’m saying this so others know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, happiness and good times are ahead, and you’ll find relief that everything will be OK. Without the help from others on this website, my friends and my family, I wouldn’t be as far along as I am today. This has tested me and made me realize I’m stronger than I ever thought I was. Just dig deep and reach out to others. You can and will make it!  What a crazy wild ride it is. 

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