OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Feeling 😞

**Posted by TeeWee** August 18, 2024 9:24 pm

I’m just feeling sad tonight. My 25th wedding anniversary would have been yesterday. My daughter left for college tonight. Just need some positive vibes, laughter, or virtual love. Much appreciated.

**Posted by Norah** August 19, 2024 12:20 am

TeeWee,
We understand. Sadness does creep on us when there are triggers like your anniversary, and sometimes for no reason.
Google- memes for happily single women that don’t need a man. Some are so funny, yet so true. There is one that shows SpongeBob SquarePants sleeping in bed w/ a smile. IT SAYS, HOW I SLEEP KNOWING IM SINGLE AND NO ONE IS CHEATING ON ME.
Another one: shows Sarah Jessica Parker. She is asked, “ why are you still single?” Her answer: “i don’t have time for idiots”
Another one has a pic of one of the Simpson’s women charachter lying supine with the hairiest legs. Title says, "When she gives up on relationships and starts focusing on herself"

Living alone- you can wear PJ’s all day, if you want. Talk to yourself, which I honestly talk out loud a lot. Walk naked. Listen to music or podcasts as Loud as one wants. Eat a meal out of a can. Sleep late. Etc.
Okay, I don’t do this all the time. But I know I couldn’t if I had a mate that would critique my every move.

Sending you a BIG HUG and LOVE across the miles. There will be ups and downs, you will be okay.

Last edited by Norah (August 19, 2024 12:27 am)

**Posted by TeeWee** August 19, 2024 9:09 am

Norah! Thank you! You just made my day. 😂

**Posted by Anon 765** August 19, 2024 7:16 pm

Hi TeeWee,

Sending you some virtual hugs. I love Norah's suggestions! I'd add Miley Cyrus's song "Flowers" to the list, and Nina Simone's "Feeling Good".

I hope you're feeling more peaceful today.

Anon 765

**Posted by Jupiter1** August 20, 2024 10:56 pm

Tee wee, yeah the anniversaries are absolutely hard, when the magnitude of the changed future kicks in-combined with the bittersweet change of your daughter just off at school.

Just today I was imaging if I put say half of the care my stbx puts into himself and invested it in myself. I’m over here bawling my eyes out over the loss and he done crying is moving on in all sorts of ways. Sometimes I’m not even sure where to start but I wanna try. I know you can too TeeWee.

Last edited by Jupiter1 (August 20, 2024 10:57 pm)

**Posted by Rob** August 22, 2024 1:06 pm

Anniversaries only mean something if they have meaning to both people. I no longer think of mine at all.

A kind e-hug.. virtual but authentic.

**Posted by OutofHisCloset** August 22, 2024 8:27 pm

Funny that I just logged on and realized, reading the latest, that Aug 21 would have been our anniversary. This is the second year in a row that it simply did not register with me. I've been divorced now for just under six years.

Last edited by OutofHisCloset (August 22, 2024 8:28 pm)

**Posted by walkbymyself** August 26, 2024 10:44 am

Just reading along, I realized my anniversary is tomorrow.

**Posted by OutofHisCloset** August 27, 2024 10:29 am

Walkbymyself: Kind of nice, isn't it, to realize the progress this represents.

**Posted by walkbymyself** August 27, 2024 11:53 am

Really. Now I celebrate the anniversary our divorce was final.