OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Increase in sex drive

**Posted by Nantucket1931** August 11, 2024 7:18 pm

Can anybody relate or share experiences with a GID spouse having an increase in sex drive and wanting to try new things. I always here about a lack of sex as a sign. Just wanting to hear if this was a sign for others !

**Posted by Rob** August 13, 2024 11:29 am

Lack for years and then some sudden interest that lasted a few weeks..but it was so out of character at that point..looking back I concluded it was one last attempt to see if she liked it before declaring I was a bad husband and going all in on her gay affair. The truth is she never liked it...years of pushing me away and making me think it was normal.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** August 13, 2024 2:25 pm

Nantucket1931 wrote:
Can anybody relate or share experiences with a GID spouse having an increase in sex drive and wanting to try new things. I always here about a lack of sex as a sign. Just wanting to hear if this was a sign for others !

Halfway through my 38 yr r'ship my former partner joined the police and did 5 months training at police college. When he left there all of a sudden he had 'found' a site for couples wanting to meet, fuck etc. I was in love, accepted it as adventure and we did some crazy, bdsm, sexual stuff. He was determinedly insistent and because I didn't know where it would lead I let it go on for way too long. I simply didn't see the ramifications of it til my self esteem was so low that I couldn't find it on the floor. I had to force myself to make some hard decisions about my life. It became obvious that A. wasn't thinking about me when he expressed that side of his personality....."the 5%" (his words) of himself that was bisexual.
Then near the end of our sexual time together I noticed he became very dull, almost uninterested in bed.....which led me to my first big decision "I no longer want to have sex with you". And that continued until we separated.

I thought he wanted me.....more than anybody else. He only valued me because I gave him what he wanted.

Elle

**Posted by Norah** August 14, 2024 12:10 pm

For years it went from lack of sex, having difficulties maintaining an erection, to no sex. Then when I wanted to leave the relationship, he could perform and wanted sex often. Of course it happened with new techniques-like introducing the anal toy (for him), role play of him fantasizing that he was a woman/wearing lingerie and lacy bras during the act, etc and an Rx for Viagra. It was like a honeymoon period. It didn’t last long. He was on a mission to find a partner that best suited his sexuality.