OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Gay and a narcissist?

**Posted by Wise2024** February 4, 2024 8:41 pm

Has anyone ever experienced a spouse coming out and his/her also being a narcissist? And/or is there any research on the topic?

**Posted by Daryl** February 4, 2024 9:22 pm

I don't know about peer-reviewed research, but it does seem that quite a few of us have/had spouses with narcissistic behaviour, especially in the men. Here's a link to a basic description of the condition. If you are in this situation, you may spot some familiar behaviours and tactics. Take the 'what to do' advice with caution. First get the knowledge, then consider what you might do. Be well.
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/narcissism-symptoms-signs

**Posted by Blackie563** February 4, 2024 9:33 pm

I can provide both. My ex wife is a licensed psychologist and taught me for years about the condition. Little did I know she was describing herself the entire time. My body always knew, I was sick the entire 23 years together. In the 1+ year apart? Best health of my adult life. Happy to help anyway I can. Whether or not they are a diagnosed narc is not really the point, toxic behavior is toxic behavior.

**Posted by walkbymyself** February 6, 2024 3:42 pm

Daryl, that is a really interesting link.

**Posted by Rob** February 6, 2024 9:16 pm

Yes a good article. The section "How to deal with a narcissist" describes my whole marriage....Didnt realize it at the time...always had to choose my words and behave in a cautious way for basic things like saying good morning.