OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Our MOM story is featured in a book!

**Posted by CMaree23** January 17, 2024 5:33 pm

Three years ago Rob of the podcast Two Bi Guys interviewed us for what would eventually become his book, "Bisexual Married Men - Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity". His book mainly focuses on bisexual men married to women (A very underrepresented demographic). We are incredibly excited and proud to be a part of this book! Our story is just one small example of the reality that so many live in. We are so honored to be able to speak about our story and be a small part of how we're bringing light to the mixed orientation relationship community.

Rob had us on his podcast recently for a follow-up interview to discuss our story again and touch on what we discussed in the book. Rob is doing great things to bring awareness and visibility to bi-married men and the complicated things they face. If you are interested, here are links to his podcast as well as the book.

Link to book (Currently on sale and free shipping through this site)
https://www.routledge.com/Bise.../Cohen/p/book/9781032473260

Link to book on Amazon
https://www.amazon.com/Bisexual-Married-Men-Relationships-Authenticity/dp/1032473266

Two Bi Guys Podcast on Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/1bf4ntLx9FedB9Py3JccPR?si=0985a0097add4f9c

Two Bi Guys Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/

**Posted by Sean01** January 20, 2024 4:27 am

Thank you for posting. I want to apologize for doubting and often denigrating your relationship and other MOMs over the years. Your bi/straight relationship is clearly a success after so many years. My question is as follows: what would you recommend for straight women posting here who find themselves in marriages or long-term relationships with men who have sex with men, hide their cheating, and no longer have sex with their wives/girlfriends? Taking yourself and Tangled as examples, I believe your husbands identify as bisexual, both husbands were honest with you about their attractions to men, neither husband cheated on you nor asked for open marriages, and you both have shared about fulfilling sex lives. Conversely, what should a straight spouse do with a husband who now identifies as gay, continues to lie about his sexuality, cheats with men, and refuses to have sex with his straight spouse? I think our differing and sometimes conflicting opinions here and on Reddit might stem from comparing apples (gay/bisexual cheating husbands) to oranges (bisexual monogamous husbands). I look forward to your reply and might also post this on Reddit. Thank you.

Last edited by Sean01 (January 20, 2024 5:11 am)

**Posted by M-Kate** January 23, 2024 4:38 pm

I listened to the podcast. I thought it was interesting that the bi guy didn't care what his wife thought about his infidelity. He wanted to have sex with men and he didn't want to sneak around. He knew that it would likely end his marriage. He may be gay and not bi.

**Posted by CMaree23** January 23, 2024 7:44 pm

Hello M-Kate. That is not our story. Here is a link to our episode if you are interested.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2eRwus9AyL3VzdSFUW1SqD?si=f4269890081841d4

Last edited by CMaree23 (January 23, 2024 7:59 pm)

**Posted by CMaree23** January 25, 2024 12:17 am

My short answer is this.. If ANYONE finds themselves in a situation with a serial cheater who is lying, gaslighting, not working on their relationship, abusive in any way, and not having sex with them anymore then I would ask them why they are staying. I think it is really as simple as that. It doesn't even have to be made into a big sexuality issue at all.

I would never encourage anyone to stay in an unhealthy or unhappy situation. But when a partner comes out that does not automatically mean they have been or will be unfaithful. It does not mean they will want to open the relationship. MANY simply just want to be loved and accepted for who they are and I try not to jump to any conclusions other than that.