Rob wrote:

Kel,
This year she wants the opposite of what our schedule (legal agreement) says.    I get hurt either way..if I agree I may not like the arrangement and I mess up next year.   If I say stay on  schedule everyone is mad at me and I'm miserably anyway.    Holidays are ruined already.

 

My x often wants minor (mostly) changes to our schedule as most of her extended family lives nearby and they do lots of stuff together. I try to accommodate her, even though it doesn't feel reciprocal. But it gives me a clean conscience. I'm doing the best I can to make our cooperation as good as possible, for my kids. I believe that the best childhood I can give them is one where their parents don't fight. And that they need both parents.
As much as I wish I would newer have to deal with her again, there is just no way out.
Make the best of this situation, do something fun when the kids are away.
Jack