OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Hurts so bad

**Posted by Otter** July 16, 2023 8:24 pm

This whole thing is really painful and is completely unfair

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** July 16, 2023 9:35 pm

Otter wrote:
This whole thing is really painful and is completely unfair

Yip... And it'll keep hurting until it doesn't, or not as much anyway. I've found this has made me stronger and opened my eyes to the options that are out there for me

Do you have support? Family, friends?

Elle

**Posted by Otter** July 19, 2023 12:54 pm

Elle- yes, thankful for my close-knit support. Grief hit me hard a few days ago, but I know there are brighter days ahead. After careful consideration, and learning of my GID husband’s current affair, I decided to end our 20 year marriage.

**Posted by gwendolyn_C** July 19, 2023 1:34 pm

Otter - I'm so sorry! I understand your feelings. It's completely unfair! I decided to end my marriage after almost 18 years. It's an emotional roller coaster - especially when he attempts to blameshift and gets upset when I enforce boundaries.

**Posted by TKU** August 4, 2023 7:35 pm

It would be more beneficial for everyone if you told what happened to this god-forsaken community. My purpose is not to attack, I just think that sharing stories will benefit everyone. It is really valuable that you describe in detail what happened and how you felt during this process.

**Posted by Otter** August 6, 2023 9:22 am

[TKU]It would be more beneficial for everyone if you told what happened to this god-forsaken community. My purpose is not to attack, I just think that sharing stories will benefit everyone. It is really valuable that you describe in detail what happened and how you felt during this process.

I appreciate your encouragement, TKU, and agree about sharing stories. Mine started at the beginning of this year and is still shaping. I will be sharing it, but not until after my divorce. I am so thankful for this community and hope that my story can eventually help others.